“Don't aim at success - the more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue... as the unintended side-effect of one's personal dedication to a course greater than oneself.” ~Victor Frankl
This quote above is very profound and one I suggest you may want to print-out and contemplate. And what a perfect time to contemplate what success really means to you – as we are embarking on another year – a year full of hope, anticipation, and excitement – and another year and chance to ‘get it right’.
Yet, trying to be successful, or trying to ‘get it right’, can not only cause loads of pressure, tension and...
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”The pain that you’ve been feeling can’t compare to the joy that’s coming.” ~Romans 8:18
I heard a statement the other day that really struck me . I knew in an instant that it was true. Here it is: “The deeper the pain, the deeper the Truth there is to discover”.
We live in a world of contrast…opposites…light and dark…up and down….what goes up, must come down – and so on.
So, what does this mean to your life? A whole lot.
Consider an area of your life that has royally challenged you. An area that has maybe caused you pain or at least lots of discontent. Other areas of your life may flow easily (or easier) but this one area seems to...
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“When you find your path, you must not be afraid. You need to have sufficient courage to make mistakes. Disappointment, defeat, and despair are the tools God uses to show us the way.” ― Paulo Coelho, Brida
The other day I had one of the best conversations with a new client whom, at the time, was trying to determine if now is the right time for her to start on the path of deeper Self discovery in life, work and relationships.
In our brief 20-minute call, she and I were able to determine the depth of her indecision and feeling overwhelmingly stuck. The key moment in the call was when she admitted: “I’m afraid to try again!”. She was so surprised when the words were uttered out of her mouth as she had no...
"Your problem is you are too busy holding on to your unworthiness." ~Ram Dass
In my work with people, the best way I can describe them hovering over a worth issue is when they know what it is that they truly desire and want - yet they struggle with a hold-back a block of not being able to experience it and they have no idea why.
The best analogy I heard for this was described by Debbie Ford in one of her books where she said (which I'll paraphrase): The feeling is like being stuck in a glass capsule. On the outside you can see what it is that you desire. You are close enough to almost touch and taste it - but you're just far enough away to fully grab on and claim it as yours.
Can you relate with this glass capsule...
You've been given the perfect life to teach what you most need to learn. The greatest teachers are given the greatest challenges. Accept that your life will never be perfect but the circumstances are perfect for you to continually evolve yourself while you continually help to evolve others.
You know you're being called to do more and to be more in your life. There is a nagging feeling that just won't let you go. No matter how many times you've tried to ignore it -or settle for a regular existence - it nags at you whispering - There Is Something More...
I get it....your calling can feel like a haunting.
Maybe you've explored what your MORE is. Maybe you've taken a course, attended a workshop, or you've taken action on your...
Are you on the verge of making a big change in your life/work? Or, do you have a deep desire to make a big change?
Do you know exactly what you want to see and have change - or is that vision fuzzy?
Either way, if you know in your heart and soul that a change is needed - it's having the courage to take the steps to make that change come to life - that is the biggest challenge.
One day, as I was contemplating making my own big changes - I stumbled upon a card in the store that simply read: Trust In Yourself. As I backed up to look more closely at it, the whole title read: “Trust In Yourself to Make a New Beginning”
Intrigued, I opened the card and read through some beautiful wording that described how difficult, yet exciting, it can...
“Those who do not move do not notice their chains.” ~Rosa Luxemburg
I can only imagine if you’re anything like me, that you consistently feel a need to evolve and grow, to expand and ensure that you’re realizing your full potential.
I would also guess that you’re someone who at each level you aspire to, you run into new hold-backs, new limiting belief systems that you didn’t realize were there. Beliefs that run deep. Beliefs that wreak havoc on your best laid plans to go forward into your future without limits!
You’re most likely learning that, as you go forward and continue to allow yourself permission to follow your heart, that you’re realizing that your inner critic (that voice inside who tells you can't, you won't, you're not good...
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"Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it." ~ Confucius
Let's imagine that together you and I worked on creating some intentions for all areas of your life. In our process together, I would have you start with what it is that you deeply desire but rather than focus on the specifics around the desire, I would rather have you focus on the ESSENCE of your desire.
My favorite definition of the word essence is: the characteristic or intrinsic feature of a thing, which determines its identity; fundamental nature.
If you think about that - the fundamental nature - the identity - of something...you really get down to the CORE and the Truth of whatever it is that you desire.
And what's so cool about setting intentions via the coaching process is: when we...
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“There is a time in our lives, usually at mid-life, when a woman has to make a decision- possibly the most important psychic decision of her future life – and that is, whether to be bitter or not. Women often come to this in their late thirties or early forties. They are at the point where they are full up to their ears with everything and they’ve “had it” and “the last straw has broken the camel’s back” and they’re “pissed off and pooped out.” Their dreams of their twenties may be lying in a crumple. They may be with broken hearts, broken marriages, broken promises.” ~Clarissa Pinkola Estes’ from Women Who Run With The Wolves
The statement above is from the fabulous book - ...