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Judgement vs. Discernment

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“Make no judgments where you have no compassion.” ~Anne McCaffrey

Judgment gets a bad rap in our society.

You hear people tell us that judging is bad and you shouldn't judge another or yourself.

I agree. 

Yet in order to function in life you do need have a tool that allows you to observe behavior and make determinations that serve you and your well being.

This key is to know the difference between judging and discernment. 

Judging is making a critical observation and concluding that you are better than the person you are judging.  This is also true for how your inner critic tries to control you through judgement of yourself!  

Discernment is the act of observing someone's behavior and making...

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Letting Go of Control

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Have you ever experienced a situation in life or work where you felt so attached to an outcome that it was driving you crazy? 

Have you tried everything in your power to manipulate that particular outcome and still have nothing happen?  

Did you, at some point, realize that the situation was simply out of your control and you needed to surrender and let "it" go? 

Most of us could use a weekly class in buffing our internal surrender muscle.

Most often the beliefs around surrender conjure up feelings of giving up and losing all hope. 

The Truth is:  Being able to surrender and trust in a higher power is actually a sign of spiritual maturity.  Learning to surrender before any suffering and...

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We Teach What We Most Need To Learn

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“We work on ourselves in order to help others, but also we help others in order to work on ourselves.”  — Pema Chödrön

The biggest misconception many people have is - believing that those that are called to teach and coach have it all figured out. We don’t. That’s the point.

Oftentimes I’ve found myself begrudging my circumstances - whether present or past thinking:  “This isn’t right. This shouldn’t be happening to me. Haven’t I transcended and outgrown this by now?”
These questions always served me a nice big piece of humble pie.

I’ve learned through direct experience that if you are committed to being of true service in this world, then...

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Accepting What Is

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“I finally figured out the only reason to be alive is to enjoy it”.
 ~Rita Mae Brown

If there is one common denominator in the Claim Your Worth!® collaboration and coaching process it is:    helping you to balance your future aspirations while maintaining everyday peace of mind

Not such an easy mission when everything in our society screams at us to do more, be more, have more, and accomplish more. 

Yet, this balance of experiencing everyday peace while still aspiring and accomplishing what you desire is possible.  It simply takes choice.  The choice it requires is to accept ‘what is’ right now, without feeling like you’re resigning to ‘what...

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Where Does Self Worth Come From?

“Be yourself, not your idea of what you think somebody else's idea of yourself should be.”  Henry David Thoreau

According to Dictionary.com, the word “chase”  has many definitions.  All of them amount to key words such as:  to pursue in to order to seize, overtake; to capture or kill, as game; hunt; to follow or devote one's attention to with the hope of attracting, winning, gaining;  to drive or expel by force, threat, or harassment.

 When you look-up “claim” on Dictionary.com, you find definitions including:  to demand by or as by virtue of a right; demand as a right or as due; to assert and demand the recognition of (a right, title, possession, etc.); assert one's right to; to assert or maintain as a fact; ...

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Stop Hiding From Yourself and Others

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"If the shoe doesn't fit, must we change the foot?" ~Gloria Steinem

To me, this quote by Gloria Steinem is incredibly powerful.

It speaks to what most of us are taught to do from a very early age, change and hide who we really are in order to "fit-into" situations that are uncomfortable but needed for our survival.

Have you ever considered that the parts of you that you thought were your hold-backs were just protection mechanisms?

Have you ever considered that you needed to hide away parts of you that are LIGHT, bright, capable, strong, and glowing - in order to not outshine or intimidate others?

Consider Gloria's question: "If the shoe doesn't fit, must we change the foot?"

Unfortunately most of us are taught unconsciously to...

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Accepting and Allowing MORE Into Your Life

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Whatever we are waiting for - peace of mind, contentment, grace, the inner awareness of simple abundance - it will surely come to us, but only when we are ready to receive it with an open and grateful heart. ~ Sarah Ban Breathnach

Abundance is a popular topic within the self-help/self-improvement field.  You may have started your journey with learning about the "Law of Attraction" and how others were utilizing the powers of the Universe to have more in their lives.

Abundance is different.  Abundance isn't about acquiring more stuff - although more stuff can be a part of it.  Abundance is about the relationship with Self - and knowing that you're worthy.  Period.

Abundance is about knowing that you're already enough...

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Does Your Self Worth Fluctuate?

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"To walk in nature is to witness a thousand miracles."  ~Mary Davis

Have you ever wondered if your self worth fluctuates?  

It's an interesting question - and when I googled to see if anyone else had written about the topic, inevitably what popped up were suggestions for searches and articles about self-esteem fluctuating - nothing about self worth.  

This is so interesting because I've written about Self Worth vs. Self Esteem and the differences between the two.  Self worth doesn't fluctuate.  It is YOU at your core - your birthright - who you "are".  Self esteem does fluctuate because it's based on what you "do".  In a other words - self worth is internal - self esteem is all...

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How To Not Settle For Less

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"I ain't settling for just getting by. I've had enough "so so" for the rest of my life.  Tired of shooting too low, so raise the bar high.   Just enough ain't enough this time.  I ain't settling for anything less than everything!" ~Lyrics from Ainít Settlin, Sugarland 

How many times have you felt like your heart and soul have urged you to explore the MORE within  - yet a part of you crops up to remind you to: "Don't even think about it  - it's not meant for you, stay where you are, youíre safer here..."?

If you take the word Settle - and explore the opposite of it, (thanks to www.opposite-word.com) you find the words: "confuse, mix up, unsettle". 

No wonder it feels scary to...

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Learning to Surrender

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“Don't aim at success - the more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue... as the unintended side-effect of one's personal dedication to a course greater than oneself.” ~Victor Frankl

This quote above is very profound and one I suggest you may want to print-out and contemplate. And what a perfect time to contemplate what success really means to you – as we are embarking on another year – a year full of hope, anticipation, and excitement – and another year and chance to ‘get it right’.

Yet, trying to be successful, or trying to ‘get it right’, can not only cause loads of pressure, tension and...

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