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What (and Who!) Determines Your Self Worth?

 Appearance has so little to do with where we should get our confidence from. But everywhere we turn we’re told we’re supposed to look this certain way. I have looked at myself in the mirror and though, This is how you look. Embrace that and move on. Confidence has nothing to do with how you look. I feel happiest when I’m with friends and I’m working really hard. ~Amy Schumer

The other day I discovered an empowering and inspirational speech that comedian Amy Schumer gave at The Gloria Awards a few years back.  The speech spoke to the importance of not relying on external sources for your confidence of self worth.  

You most likely know about Amy Schumer, she is comedy’s “it” girl not only because she's incredibly...

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Knowing Who You Can Trust

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If you’ve ever had a struggle or a really difficult circumstance in your life, you most likely wanted to share the struggle with someone you trust and who can help you through it. 

Yet, at one point (or many points), you may have found yourself feeling worse after sharing your struggle with someone who didn't support you in the way you needed them to.  

In this discussion with Oprah, Brene Brown speaks to this exact situation in what she refers to as: 6 People Who Do Not Deserve To Hear Your Shame Story.  

It’s powerful to realize that you may have chosen to be vulnerable with the wrong person.  You may have chosen to be open with someone who hasn’t learned to be open with themselves.

So often on your...

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Where Does Self Worth Come From?

“Be yourself, not your idea of what you think somebody else's idea of yourself should be.”  Henry David Thoreau

According to Dictionary.com, the word “chase”  has many definitions.  All of them amount to key words such as:  to pursue in to order to seize, overtake; to capture or kill, as game; hunt; to follow or devote one's attention to with the hope of attracting, winning, gaining;  to drive or expel by force, threat, or harassment.

 When you look-up “claim” on Dictionary.com, you find definitions including:  to demand by or as by virtue of a right; demand as a right or as due; to assert and demand the recognition of (a right, title, possession, etc.); assert one's right to; to assert or maintain as a fact; ...

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Does Your Self Worth Fluctuate?

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"To walk in nature is to witness a thousand miracles."  ~Mary Davis

Have you ever wondered if your self worth fluctuates?  

It's an interesting question - and when I googled to see if anyone else had written about the topic, inevitably what popped up were suggestions for searches and articles about self-esteem fluctuating - nothing about self worth.  

This is so interesting because I've written about Self Worth vs. Self Esteem and the differences between the two.  Self worth doesn't fluctuate.  It is YOU at your core - your birthright - who you "are".  Self esteem does fluctuate because it's based on what you "do".  In a other words - self worth is internal - self esteem is all...

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Feeling Invisible In Life

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“Can you see me? Can you hear me? Does anything I say mean anything to you?”― Oprah Winfrey

I heard Oprah Winfrey say that in all her years of interviewing people that what everyone wants to know is: Do You See Me? 

Being seen means so much more than in the literal sense of being seen.

Sure you see folks wear bright colors or a sexy outfit to be seen, but this is a different kind of seeing – a seeing that goes beyond the surface and the exterior.  The question really is:  Do you see me for who I really am – as a unique individual – ENOUGH  - just as I am – imperfections and all?

As with everything in life, anytime you want to be authentically recognized, validated, heard and...

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How To Overcome Regret

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“Dwell in possibility”  ~Emily Dickinson

When you make the all important decision to live the life you’re destined to live, you will go through a myriad of emotions.  One biggie of an emotion is the “should-a, could-a, would-a” effect – where you feel “if only” I had done this – or “if only” they had done that – or “if only” it could of worked out this way.    

Having regrets about your past and/or present circumstances, not only hold you back from manifesting your highest vision, but regrets also drain your energy and keep you steeped in old self-defeating programming and patterns. 

To regret is to feel a sense of loss, disappointment, and an...

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What Is Self Respect?

The other day I realized that I repeated (yet again) a past pattern that has caused me enormous pain and confusion.   

As I sat there feeling that all too familiar punch in the gut pain, I thought: “Geez, I must not have much self-respect to keep doing this to myself…”.

My head then began to take me on a rollercoaster ride of judgement – where I began to feel worse *thinking* thoughts such as:  “Other stronger, more worldly women - would never continually subject themselves to this type of pain.  You must be weak  – and they simply have more self-respect for themselves.”

Ouch.

So, then as I habitually do, I went outside myself to get a better understanding of what the outside world could tell me about self-judgement....

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