Negative thinking is something that I believe you can identify easier than unworthy thinking.
I believe you can talk yourself out of a bad mood – it takes effort but you can do it.
Trying to talk yourself out of unworthiness? Well, that requires experience – a direct experience and shift in your soul.
Negative thinking looks and sounds like: Ugh, really? Traffic again? Why does this always happen to me when I have somewhere to be? Why do I always attract this into my life? Why can’t I catch a break?
Unworthy thinking is more unconscious.
In a moment where something on the outside triggers you, you begin to feel that same way again – this experience sparked something deep down inside you – and you begin to FEEL and then THINK those same old feelings of: "I...
Many people die with their music still in them. Why is this so? Too often it is because they are always getting ready to live. Before they know it, time runs out. ~Oliver Wendell Holmes
Steeped in the need for growth and feeling worthy of experiencing and having MORE in your life – comes an, almost always unconscious, ambivalence around wanting to grow but being afraid of it at the same time.
What's at the core of this is? F.E.A.R.
Sure, there is fear of change, fear of the unknown and going to a new level and what that will require of you. But at a deeper level - there is a fear of losing what you have now - when you gain something new.
In other words - the fear of loss.
This fear is there because of a...
“If God had wanted me otherwise, He would have created me otherwise.” ~Johann von Goethe
In order to live the life you were designed to live - it’s critical to understand yourself at the deepest level.
Yet, most of us were taught to cover-up the core of who we are in order to be accepted by others in both our original family of origin, and our peer groups growing up.
Becoming who you were designed to be is a courageous act because it requires you to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. It requires you to understand that not everyone is going to approve of what you do and who you commit to becoming.
The most important and courageous act in being your own person is: accepting and loving ALL parts of yourself first and...
I've had clients ask me: what does that truly mean to give your power away?
What is your power anyway?
Your power is your sense of self. It's your definition of who you think you are - who you know yourself to be. What you believe you're capable of and what you believe you're worthy of. Your power is your self-worth.
We've been taught to hand our sense of self over to the outside world. To believe that others opinions define us. Or, that material possessions or worldly success can give a sense of self - some validation that we've "made it", that we're whole, and that somehow, the outer world can fulfill us.
Relying on the outside world for any sense of self-worth is not only fleeting and totally temporary, but it's also extremely risky and absolutely draining.
The other day I realized that I repeated (yet again) a past pattern that has caused me enormous pain and confusion.
As I sat there feeling that all too familiar punch in the gut pain, I thought: “Geez, I must not have much self-respect to keep doing this to myself…”.
My head then began to take me on a rollercoaster ride of judgement – where I began to feel worse *thinking* thoughts such as: “Other stronger, more worldly women - would never continually subject themselves to this type of pain. You must be weak – and they simply have more self-respect for themselves.”
So, then as I habitually do, I went outside myself to get a better understanding of what the outside world could tell me about self-judgement....
Most of us are stuck in unconscious thought patterns that don't serve and keep us stuck in the past or the future – and how most of us don’t value the NOW.
We all hear this message “out there” in various forms and messages. Be Present. Stay in the moment. All we have is NOW. The present is a present.
True, but how do you apply these concepts to your life? How do you realize what being in the NOW actually gives to your life right now?
The whole concept of being in the NOW is to give yourself the gift (a.k.a. present) of connecting with Truth vs. listening to the voice in your head. We all have the mind chatter that wants to keep feeding off the past – or focusing on what may (or may not) happen in the...