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What (and Who!) Determines Your Self Worth?

 Appearance has so little to do with where we should get our confidence from. But everywhere we turn we’re told we’re supposed to look this certain way. I have looked at myself in the mirror and though, This is how you look. Embrace that and move on. Confidence has nothing to do with how you look. I feel happiest when I’m with friends and I’m working really hard. ~Amy Schumer

The other day I discovered an empowering and inspirational speech that comedian Amy Schumer gave at The Gloria Awards a few years back.  The speech spoke to the importance of not relying on external sources for your confidence of self worth.  

You most likely know about Amy Schumer, she is comedy’s “it” girl not only because she's incredibly...

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Your Life’s Calling


I’ve learned first-hand that what you’re skilled at isn’t always what you’re gifted at.  The two can beautifully blended together but both must be put in their proper places in order for you to discover your true purpose and to experience effortless joy in your work. 

Even though I am a certified life and career coach, I never had any formal training to teach me the “type” of coaching that I do. 

My ability to help others transform how they see themselves and as a result - feel more confident, grounded, courageous and better in their own skin – comes very natural to me – but again – it’s work that I could never be “trained” to do. 

Rather, the work that I do has come – and continues to come...

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Letting Go of Control

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Have you ever experienced a situation in life or work where you felt so attached to an outcome that it was driving you crazy? 

Have you tried everything in your power to manipulate that particular outcome and still have nothing happen?  

Did you, at some point, realize that the situation was simply out of your control and you needed to surrender and let "it" go? 

Most of us could use a weekly class in buffing our internal surrender muscle.

Most often the beliefs around surrender conjure up feelings of giving up and losing all hope. 

The Truth is:  Being able to surrender and trust in a higher power is actually a sign of spiritual maturity.  Learning to surrender before any suffering and...

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We Teach What We Most Need To Learn

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“We work on ourselves in order to help others, but also we help others in order to work on ourselves.”  — Pema Chödrön

The biggest misconception many people have is - believing that those that are called to teach and coach have it all figured out. We don’t. That’s the point.

Oftentimes I’ve found myself begrudging my circumstances - whether present or past thinking:  “This isn’t right. This shouldn’t be happening to me. Haven’t I transcended and outgrown this by now?”
These questions always served me a nice big piece of humble pie.

I’ve learned through direct experience that if you are committed to being of true service in this world, then...

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Accepting What Is

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“I finally figured out the only reason to be alive is to enjoy it”.
 ~Rita Mae Brown

If there is one common denominator in the Claim Your Worth!® collaboration and coaching process it is:    helping you to balance your future aspirations while maintaining everyday peace of mind

Not such an easy mission when everything in our society screams at us to do more, be more, have more, and accomplish more. 

Yet, this balance of experiencing everyday peace while still aspiring and accomplishing what you desire is possible.  It simply takes choice.  The choice it requires is to accept ‘what is’ right now, without feeling like you’re resigning to ‘what...

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Where Does Self Worth Come From?

“Be yourself, not your idea of what you think somebody else's idea of yourself should be.”  Henry David Thoreau

According to Dictionary.com, the word “chase”  has many definitions.  All of them amount to key words such as:  to pursue in to order to seize, overtake; to capture or kill, as game; hunt; to follow or devote one's attention to with the hope of attracting, winning, gaining;  to drive or expel by force, threat, or harassment.

 When you look-up “claim” on Dictionary.com, you find definitions including:  to demand by or as by virtue of a right; demand as a right or as due; to assert and demand the recognition of (a right, title, possession, etc.); assert one's right to; to assert or maintain as a fact; ...

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Accepting and Allowing MORE Into Your Life

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Whatever we are waiting for - peace of mind, contentment, grace, the inner awareness of simple abundance - it will surely come to us, but only when we are ready to receive it with an open and grateful heart. ~ Sarah Ban Breathnach

Abundance is a popular topic within the self-help/self-improvement field.  You may have started your journey with learning about the "Law of Attraction" and how others were utilizing the powers of the Universe to have more in their lives.

Abundance is different.  Abundance isn't about acquiring more stuff - although more stuff can be a part of it.  Abundance is about the relationship with Self - and knowing that you're worthy.  Period.

Abundance is about knowing that you're already enough...

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Feeling Invisible In Life

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“Can you see me? Can you hear me? Does anything I say mean anything to you?”― Oprah Winfrey

I heard Oprah Winfrey say that in all her years of interviewing people that what everyone wants to know is: Do You See Me? 

Being seen means so much more than in the literal sense of being seen.

Sure you see folks wear bright colors or a sexy outfit to be seen, but this is a different kind of seeing – a seeing that goes beyond the surface and the exterior.  The question really is:  Do you see me for who I really am – as a unique individual – ENOUGH  - just as I am – imperfections and all?

As with everything in life, anytime you want to be authentically recognized, validated, heard and...

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Toxic vs. Healthy Shame

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"Your problem is you are too busy holding on to your unworthiness." ~Ram Dass

In my work with people, the best way I can describe them hovering over a worth issue is when they know what it is that they truly desire and want  -  yet they struggle with a hold-back  a block of not being able to experience it and they have no idea why.

The best analogy I heard for this was described by Debbie Ford in one of her books where she said (which I'll paraphrase): The feeling is like being stuck in a glass capsule. On the outside you can see what it is that you desire. You are close enough to almost touch and taste it  - but you're just far enough away to fully grab on and claim it as yours.

Can you relate with this glass capsule...

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The Power To Surrender

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"God always gives His/Her best to those who leave the choice with Him/Her" ~ Jim Elliot

If you're anything like me, you follow the positive psychology movement that reminds you constantly of how much power you have with what and how you think - and the decisions that you make in your life. 

This constant reminder to think positive, be positive, etc. - is powerful - but, can almost feel overwhelming knowing how much power you have at your fingertips!

This is why I love the quote above by Jim Elliot where he states that if we can hand over our choices to our Higher Power, then we'll realize that our true power (a.k.a. worth) lies in this sacred connection.  

I see these choices not only being in what you "do", but also in what you...

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