The other day I had a conversation that got me thinking about how powerful the past is to shaping your self-concept – which is the image you hold of yourself and what you feel worthy of and what you don’t.
I’ve always known that the past was powerful, yet I didn’t realize how much power I was giving it by trying to outrun and hide from it.
I can see now that outrunning and hiding from past memories brought great gifts. I learned how to be driven, motivated and ambitious.
However, I always knew, at some level, this ambition and constant drive was a mechanism I was using to not feel or acknowledge the lack I was feeling.
It made logical sense for me to leave the past in the past – and outgrow...
If you’ve ever had a struggle or a really difficult circumstance in your life, you most likely wanted to share the struggle with someone you trust and who can help you through it.
Yet, at one point (or many points), you may have found yourself feeling worse after sharing your struggle with someone who didn't support you in the way you needed them to.
In this discussion with Oprah, Brene Brown speaks to this exact situation in what she refers to as: 6 People Who Do Not Deserve To Hear Your Shame Story.
It’s powerful to realize that you may have chosen to be vulnerable with the wrong person. You may have chosen to be open with someone who hasn’t learned to be open with themselves.
So often on your...
Have you ever experienced a situation in life or work where you felt so attached to an outcome that it was driving you crazy?
Have you tried everything in your power to manipulate that particular outcome and still have nothing happen?
Did you, at some point, realize that the situation was simply out of your control and you needed to surrender and let "it" go?
Most of us could use a weekly class in buffing our internal surrender muscle.
Most often the beliefs around surrender conjure up feelings of giving up and losing all hope.
The Truth is: Being able to surrender and trust in a higher power is actually a sign of spiritual maturity. Learning to surrender before any suffering and...
“I finally figured out the only reason to be alive is to enjoy it”.
~Rita Mae Brown
If there is one common denominator in the Claim Your Worth!® collaboration and coaching process it is: helping you to balance your future aspirations while maintaining everyday peace of mind.
Not such an easy mission when everything in our society screams at us to do more, be more, have more, and accomplish more.
Yet, this balance of experiencing everyday peace while still aspiring and accomplishing what you desire is possible. It simply takes choice. The choice it requires is to accept ‘what is’ right now, without feeling like you’re resigning to ‘what...
“Be yourself, not your idea of what you think somebody else's idea of yourself should be.” Henry David Thoreau
According to Dictionary.com, the word “chase” has many definitions. All of them amount to key words such as: to pursue in to order to seize, overtake; to capture or kill, as game; hunt; to follow or devote one's attention to with the hope of attracting, winning, gaining; to drive or expel by force, threat, or harassment.
When you look-up “claim” on Dictionary.com, you find definitions including: to demand by or as by virtue of a right; demand as a right or as due; to assert and demand the recognition of (a right, title, possession, etc.); assert one's right to; to assert or maintain as a fact; ...
"God always gives His/Her best to those who leave the choice with Him/Her" ~ Jim Elliot
If you're anything like me, you follow the positive psychology movement that reminds you constantly of how much power you have with what and how you think - and the decisions that you make in your life.
This constant reminder to think positive, be positive, etc. - is powerful - but, can almost feel overwhelming knowing how much power you have at your fingertips!
This is why I love the quote above by Jim Elliot where he states that if we can hand over our choices to our Higher Power, then we'll realize that our true power (a.k.a. worth) lies in this sacred connection.
I see these choices not only being in what you "do", but also in what you...
When you make the all important decision to live the life you’re destined to live, you will go through a myriad of emotions. One biggie of an emotion is the “should-a, could-a, would-a” effect – where you feel “if only” I had done this – or “if only” they had done that – or “if only” it could of worked out this way.
Having regrets about your past and/or present circumstances, not only hold you back from manifesting your highest vision, but regrets also drain your energy and keep you steeped in old self-defeating programming and patterns.
To regret is to feel a sense of loss, disappointment, and an...
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“There is a time in our lives, usually at mid-life, when a woman has to make a decision- possibly the most important psychic decision of her future life – and that is, whether to be bitter or not. Women often come to this in their late thirties or early forties. They are at the point where they are full up to their ears with everything and they’ve “had it” and “the last straw has broken the camel’s back” and they’re “pissed off and pooped out.” Their dreams of their twenties may be lying in a crumple. They may be with broken hearts, broken marriages, broken promises.” ~Clarissa Pinkola Estes’ from Women Who Run With The Wolves
The statement above is from the fabulous book - ...
It’s inevitable, when you set a strong intention to change your life for the better, all sorts of emotions crop-up that you didn’t expect.
Learning to honor those emotions – all of them – is the KEY to transformation.
Often we don’t realize that our daily lives are playing out patterns from the past – and unconsciously we are each trying to heal old wounds by trying to “do it better” this time around.
And always, when you set a strong intention to experience something new, something better, something different than what you’re used to – painful and very uncomfortable emotions will crop-up.
Truth is: you are more comfortable with the familiar – what you know – what’s...
I've had clients ask me: what does that truly mean to give your power away?
What is your power anyway?
Your power is your sense of self. It's your definition of who you think you are - who you know yourself to be. What you believe you're capable of and what you believe you're worthy of. Your power is your self-worth.
We've been taught to hand our sense of self over to the outside world. To believe that others opinions define us. Or, that material possessions or worldly success can give a sense of self - some validation that we've "made it", that we're whole, and that somehow, the outer world can fulfill us.
Relying on the outside world for any sense of self-worth is not only fleeting and totally temporary, but it's also extremely risky and absolutely draining.