Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen." ~Winston Churchill
I've shunned myself many times for having opinions about things and for using my voice especially when others weren't in agreement about what I had to say. In fact, I've had others get down-right angry at me for expressing my feelings and opinions.
What I've realized is: having opinions and using your voice in a world full of people who want you to conform is like trying to swim upstream. It's hard and it takes a lot of strength and courage!
Feeling like you're swimming upstream is where I see so much resistance coming up for clients who know they are...
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“When you find your path, you must not be afraid. You need to have sufficient courage to make mistakes. Disappointment, defeat, and despair are the tools God uses to show us the way.” ― Paulo Coelho, Brida
The other day I had one of the best conversations with a new client whom, at the time, was trying to determine if now is the right time for her to start on the path of deeper Self discovery in life, work and relationships.
In our brief 20-minute call, she and I were able to determine the depth of her indecision and feeling overwhelmingly stuck. The key moment in the call was when she admitted: “I’m afraid to try again!”. She was so surprised when the words were uttered out of her mouth as she had no...
When you feel stressed, unsure and insecure about the future - what do you crave most? The familiar? What you know vs. what you don't know?
It's so common to want to know and to be steeped in the familiar.
Yet, if you truly want to step into a different life and experience new things for yourself and your potential - is KNOWING really what you need? Knowing what's going to happen may be what you want - but is it what you NEED?
I get it. It is so much easier to want to cling onto the familiar because it gives you a sense of security - a sense of knowing what is going to happen. But - how can things truly change if you know what's going to happen? Wouldn't that create more...
“Dance first, think later.” ~Samuel Beckett
When you have an important decision to make – do you tend to write out lists of the pros and cons – and consider which direction a yes could take you and which direction a no could take you?
Ahh, the beauty of being an over thinker J
Ambivalence, on the surface is defined as: the state of having simultaneous, sometimes conflicting behaviors towards something – like feeling happy and sad at the same time.
The same is true for more unconscious things – like the classic – saying you want to get more fit and work-out more – and then finding yourself sitting on the couch watching tv.
Ambivalence is normal to feel – especially when you’re making a big decision....
“Those who do not move do not notice their chains.” ~Rosa Luxemburg
I can only imagine if you’re anything like me, that you consistently feel a need to evolve and grow, to expand and ensure that you’re realizing your full potential.
I would also guess that you’re someone who at each level you aspire to, you run into new hold-backs, new limiting belief systems that you didn’t realize were there. Beliefs that run deep. Beliefs that wreak havoc on your best laid plans to go forward into your future without limits!
You’re most likely learning that, as you go forward and continue to allow yourself permission to follow your heart, that you’re realizing that your inner critic (that voice inside who tells you can't, you won't, you're not good...
Many people die with their music still in them. Why is this so? Too often it is because they are always getting ready to live. Before they know it, time runs out. ~Oliver Wendell Holmes
Steeped in the need for growth and feeling worthy of experiencing and having MORE in your life – comes an, almost always unconscious, ambivalence around wanting to grow but being afraid of it at the same time.
What's at the core of this is? F.E.A.R.
Sure, there is fear of change, fear of the unknown and going to a new level and what that will require of you. But at a deeper level - there is a fear of losing what you have now - when you gain something new.
In other words - the fear of loss.
This fear is there because of a...
It’s inevitable, when you set a strong intention to change your life for the better, all sorts of emotions crop-up that you didn’t expect.
Learning to honor those emotions – all of them – is the KEY to transformation.
Often we don’t realize that our daily lives are playing out patterns from the past – and unconsciously we are each trying to heal old wounds by trying to “do it better” this time around.
And always, when you set a strong intention to experience something new, something better, something different than what you’re used to – painful and very uncomfortable emotions will crop-up.
Truth is: you are more comfortable with the familiar – what you know – what’s...
Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore.Dream. Discover"
-- MARK TWAIN
Several years ago when I was in a major transition period of reinventing my life and my work, I was feeling a need for something, I just wasn't sure what that something was.
I had just finished up work with a coach to help me with some tactical things - and was now at a stage where I knew I needed some support and some encouragement, but in a much deeper way.
One day while listening to a radio show, I heard a woman who was being interviewed about her personal history and background, and her coaching philosophy. I...