"The expression of divinity is in variety." ~Sheri S. Tepper
If you are someone who longs to follow your soul's path and purpose - you most likely struggle with the balance of what your soul needs and what your head wants.
You may struggle with ensuring you are being responsible with your everyday decisions - and taking care of your basic life necessities - while also honoring your soul and the evolution it craves.
So, as with everything in life that we strive for, balance is needed. Not balance in a perfectionism way, but balance in a way that you're acknowledging all your needs- especially the needs of your heart and your head - which are very different.
To help give some clarity around...
“Dance first, think later.” ~Samuel Beckett
When you have an important decision to make – do you tend to write out lists of the pros and cons – and consider which direction a yes could take you and which direction a no could take you?
Ahh, the beauty of being an over thinker J
Ambivalence, on the surface is defined as: the state of having simultaneous, sometimes conflicting behaviors towards something – like feeling happy and sad at the same time.
The same is true for more unconscious things – like the classic – saying you want to get more fit and work-out more – and then finding yourself sitting on the couch watching tv.
Ambivalence is normal to feel – especially when you’re making a big decision....
"God always gives His/Her best to those who leave the choice with Him/Her" ~ Jim Elliot
If you're anything like me, you follow the positive psychology movement that reminds you constantly of how much power you have with what and how you think - and the decisions that you make in your life.
This constant reminder to think positive, be positive, etc. - is powerful - but, can almost feel overwhelming knowing how much power you have at your fingertips!
This is why I love the quote above by Jim Elliot where he states that if we can hand over our choices to our Higher Power, then we'll realize that our true power (a.k.a. worth) lies in this sacred connection.
I see these choices not only being in what you "do", but also in what you...
“Believe you can and you're halfway there.” ~Theodore Roosevelt
In your life you’ve most likely doubted yourself, your abilities, and your overall self-worth at some point, right?
Well, that’s actually a really good thing (say what?!?) because if you didn’t feel self-doubt, or struggle with your overall worthiness, then you wouldn’t be living up to your full potential and experiencing the growth and evolution that your soul longs for.
See, your dreams, desires, and adventures that you long manifest into reality - have absolutely nothing to do with your overall worthiness or feeling deserving, or ‘good enough’ - but in actuality, have everything to do with what your soul came to experience and needs...
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“Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” ~Steve Jobs
I think you’d agree that time is your greatest commodity. It’s a true gift to have more time for yourself, your life, with your family and for the pursuit of your creative aspirations for your continual evolution and growth as a person.
Yet, what most don’t realize is – what you value in life is displayed by...
If you identify yourself with being a can-do, go-getter, overachiever who has a track-record of getting things done - then being stuck in a rut is probably the worst feeling you could feel. It goes against the grain of everything you know about yourself and it hits hard to your identity and how you see yourself – and, where you source your value.
Imagine for a moment that you source your value and self-worth from giving.
Consider that you get a hit of adrenaline every time you accomplish, give, or prove that you’re valuable by doing or giving - whether it’s to someone or something – it feels good to get it done or provide because it feeds something in you – albeit temporarily.
Yet, at the same time, you may feel resentful and...
I heard the other that day that we humans process 125-250 words per minute when we are communicating with others - whether we’re speaking or are being spoken to. Yet, when we think in our own minds, we form thoughts that are 1000-3000 words per minute.
Pretty incredible huh?
A couple of lessons come out of this Truth.
Number one is - when you aren’t fully present when you are communicating with another - your mind is very active. This means that you aren’t listening to what the other is truly saying - but *thinking* about what you’re either going to say next- or making assumptions based on what they’re saying. In either scenario, you are more in your own mind than you are in the present moment.
Same is true for the second Truth which...
“Self sabotage is when we say we want something and we go about making sure it doesn’t happen” ~Alyce P. Cornyn-Selby
You know what it is that you deeply want. You have it on a vision board or maybe you’ve written it down.
Regardless of the way in which you’ve formulated your vision, you have a good idea of what you yearn to manifest in your life.
Then why, do you sometimes take two steps forward and one (maybe two, three or twenty!) steps back just when you’re beginning to feel great, make progress and see results?
Self sabotage could be at play.
When you find yourself taking steps forward towards your vision and then suddenly, or gradually, find yourself stopping, or backing off considerably - give thought and consideration to there may be a...
Michael Singer, author and spiritual teacher said it best:
"Most of us think that nothing good is ever going to happen to us unless I make it happen. We don’t realize we think this way, but we do. We are scared inside - and we have all these concepts of how things need to be for us to be okay. We think life is a battle, a fight. Thinking life is against me and I need to make it for me. The Truth is, life does a good job by itself. Life is pretty intelligent. No human interest with the miraculous that life is.”
I don’t know about you but this statement summed up my approach to life - believing that my life should look a certain way and meet MY expectations - and if it doesn’t, something is wrong - or that I’m a failure for not being...
“We are constantly trying to hold it all together. If you really want to see why you do things, then don't do them and see what happens.” ~Michael Singer, The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself
The past few months, and years, I’ve been doing some deep personal/spiritual work. The work has helped me to get to the ROOT of some issues that I’ve been living with - that I wasn’t even aware that I had.
Michael Singer, in his book, The Untethered Soul, describes these core wounds/issues as thorns. We can choose to keep them there and do everything in our power to protect and make sure that nothing, and no one, brushes up against them to cause more pain - OR - we can remove them.
Removing them requires that you become aware of...