Feeling worthy of your own time and attention is a skill that most need to learn and incorporate into everyday life. Society teaches that you must do good, give to others, and be a good person.
Yet, you can’t give what you don’t already have (a.k.a. energy, feeling of fullness and love, etc.) - when you’re running on an empty tank.
You know how good it feels to share your gifts and talents with others and how they benefit. Yet, when you over-give, you can experience burnout from overgiving and overextending yourself. This is when it is vital to look underneath the surface to see where you may be overgiving, overcompensating, overworking, etc. - and what your true motive is.
Oftentimes when you are overextending...
“If you want a new outcome, you will have to break the habit of being yourself, and reinvent a new self.” ~Joe Dispenza
Last week during a grueling, yet energizing workout, I huffed and puffed and heard my quiet, nurturing voice inside me say: “You’re doing great, keep going.” And, at that moment, I remember thinking: “God, if you’re so nice to me, how am I ever going to ever get anything done?”
That quiet voice inside has always been there yet I never allowed myself to hear it as often as I do now.
In the past, when I was a self-proclaimed ‘workhorse’, the voice that got me to do things, get things done, and achieve - was the voice in...
Have you ever considered that you may feel uncomfortable receiving and having more than you need? Therefore, you only ask for what you need vs. what you truly want?
Joel Osteen describes this well: "If we ask with a cup we will receive a cup’s worth. If we ask with a barrel we’ll receive a barrel’s worth."
So the question is: What limits are you putting on how much you ask for and how much you are willing to receive?
This question isn't limited to material things either. It's more focused around how you want to feel when you consider allowing yourself to...
“If you've been trying unsuccessfully to change a habit, understand that there is usually one hidden advantage or liking for that particular behavior just below your conscious awareness.” ~Hale Dwoskin
Steven Covey said it best when he said: “Our character is a composite of our habits, which form a powerful factor in our lives. Because habits are consistent, unconscious patterns, they constantly express our character and produce our effectiveness and ineffectiveness.”
Covey says that "Habits have a strong gravitational pull - and breaking deeply imbedded habitual tendencies, such as procrastination, impatience, criticalness and selfishness, involve more than just mere willpower. "
So what do...
“Pain is not wrong. Reacting to pain as wrong initiates the trance of unworthiness. The moment we believe something is wrong, our world shrinks and we lose ourselves in the effort to combat the pain. ~Tara Brach
I remember years back, when I had about a year of coaching under my belt, I hired a photographer to take some pictures of me for the new website I was creating.
This photographer was referred to me by a friend, and I had known that she recently got married and was going through some major transitions in her life.
For the photo shoot, she and I decided to meet in the woods near my home where we thought we could get some nice shots outside.
During the shoot, we chatted about a variety of things and our conversation eventually landed on...
Photo by Estée Janssens on Unsplash
Time is free, but it's priceless. You can't own it, but you can use it. You can't keep it, but you can spend it. Once you've lost it you can never get it back. ~Harvey MacKay
How do you make sure that you keep your aspirations and dreams for the future alive while you have a bunch of screaming priorities in your everyday life that you're trying to juggle?
Also, how can you balance your need for everyday peace while making progress towards your future?
One suggestion is: Spend one hour a day on your dream.
Easier said than done, I know. Yet, it is possible.
A trick I’ve found useful is to give yourself a time limit on your dreaming. The key is: you definitely don’t go under that...
“The biggest commitment you must keep is the commitment you keep to yourself.” ~Neale Donald Walsch
Do you fear being judged if you share your dreams with anyone, even yourself? Do you have resistance to writing your dreams down? If so, you may fear two things when it comes to sharing your deep heart's desire:
1) Hearing your own critical voice judging you.
2) Hearing judgement from other people (especially people closest to you) and losing their love if you step into a new, authentic version of yourself.
I read recently that one of the top 6 fears that people have about succeeding and changing is the fear of losing love.
Therefore you may stay stuck for fear of making others feel...
Photo by Yoann Boyer on Unsplash
There comes a time in life when you hit a crossroads and realize that your old ways of ‘being’ and ‘doing’ just aren’t working anymore.
If you’re anything like me, you are a go-getter. Someone who is great at making things happen ‘out there’ and you’ve prided yourself on your past accomplishments and ability to achieve at whatever level that you’ve raised the bar to.
Yet, quite often us go-getter's long for more silence and peace but aren't sure how to give ourselves permission to have it.
For years I was driven and motivated by my head. My head believed (and still does!) that my worth and value came from outside of me – through my outer...
I’ve learned first-hand that what you’re skilled at isn’t always what you’re gifted at. The two can beautifully blended together but both must be put in their proper places in order for you to discover your true purpose and to experience effortless joy in your work.
Even though I am a certified life and career coach, I never had any formal training to teach me the “type” of coaching that I do.
My ability to help others transform how they see themselves and as a result - feel more confident, grounded, courageous and better in their own skin – comes very natural to me – but again – it’s work that I could never be “trained” to do.
Rather, the work that I do has come – and continues to come...
I watched the most interesting documentary on Netflix this weekend titled: Tell Me Who I Am. You can watch the trailer by clicking here.
***Spoiler Alert & Disclaimer: If you don’t want any spoilers to the documentary, stop reading now, go watch and then come back. Also, before watching please know that the documentary discusses sexual abuse and has very sensitive content.
As the trailer describes, the story is about two twin brothers, Alex and Lewis.
At age eighteen Alex was seriously injured in a motorcycle accident and lost all his memory. The only person he recognized when he woke up was his twin brother Marcus. He didn’t even recognize his own mother but he knew his twin and...