If you identify yourself with being a can-do, go-getter, overachiever who has a track-record of getting things done - then being stuck in a rut is probably the worst feeling you could feel. It goes against the grain of everything you know about yourself and it hits hard to your identity and how you see yourself – and, where you source your value.
Imagine for a moment that you source your value and self-worth from giving.
Consider that you get a hit of adrenaline every time you accomplish, give, or prove that you’re valuable by doing or giving - whether it’s to someone or something – it feels good to get it done or provide because it feeds something in you – albeit temporarily.
Yet, at the same time, you may feel resentful and...
I heard the other that day that we humans process 125-250 words per minute when we are communicating with others - whether we’re speaking or are being spoken to. Yet, when we think in our own minds, we form thoughts that are 1000-3000 words per minute.
Pretty incredible huh?
A couple of lessons come out of this Truth.
Number one is - when you aren’t fully present when you are communicating with another - your mind is very active. This means that you aren’t listening to what the other is truly saying - but *thinking* about what you’re either going to say next- or making assumptions based on what they’re saying. In either scenario, you are more in your own mind than you are in the present moment.
Same is true for the second Truth which...
“Self sabotage is when we say we want something and we go about making sure it doesn’t happen” ~Alyce P. Cornyn-Selby
You know what it is that you deeply want. You have it on a vision board or maybe you’ve written it down.
Regardless of the way in which you’ve formulated your vision, you have a good idea of what you yearn to manifest in your life.
Then why, do you sometimes take two steps forward and one (maybe two, three or twenty!) steps back just when you’re beginning to feel great, make progress and see results?
Self sabotage could be at play.
When you find yourself taking steps forward towards your vision and then suddenly, or gradually, find yourself stopping, or backing off considerably - give thought and consideration to there may be a...
Michael Singer, author and spiritual teacher said it best:
"Most of us think that nothing good is ever going to happen to us unless I make it happen. We don’t realize we think this way, but we do. We are scared inside - and we have all these concepts of how things need to be for us to be okay. We think life is a battle, a fight. Thinking life is against me and I need to make it for me. The Truth is, life does a good job by itself. Life is pretty intelligent. No human interest with the miraculous that life is.”
I don’t know about you but this statement summed up my approach to life - believing that my life should look a certain way and meet MY expectations - and if it doesn’t, something is wrong - or that I’m a failure for not being...
“We are constantly trying to hold it all together. If you really want to see why you do things, then don't do them and see what happens.” ~Michael Singer, The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself
The past few months, and years, I’ve been doing some deep personal/spiritual work. The work has helped me to get to the ROOT of some issues that I’ve been living with - that I wasn’t even aware that I had.
Michael Singer, in his book, The Untethered Soul, describes these core wounds/issues as thorns. We can choose to keep them there and do everything in our power to protect and make sure that nothing, and no one, brushes up against them to cause more pain - OR - we can remove them.
Removing them requires that you become aware of...
This statement about needs vs. wants , says something so groundbreaking, so fundamental to your ability to experience inner well-being that it could potentially go unnoticed.
Treating your needs as optional is something most all of us have done, or continue to do each day without even realizing it. This is a habit of self-sabotagewhere you may continually ignore needs that you have without even realizing that’s what you’re doing.
Without knowing that you even have needs, let alone even have the right to honor them, is what can be troubling and will, without a doubt, cause havoc in your life and your overall well-being.
If you’re someone who has loads of responsibilities on your plate – a family, work, relationships and a slew of other responsibilities and...
You know the feeling - your jaw clenches and you feel anxious and nervous…you may know what is triggering you and you may not. Regardless - you know that in that moment fear has a grip on you - and you believe whatever “it” tells you - that "it's" real.
Have you ever considered that you may have been following fear vs. following your own Truth - especially in areas of your life that mean the most to you?
And, usually the areas that make you feel the most fear - are the areas that never seem to change - do you agree?
Fear “thinks” it’s keeping you safe - but in Truth - it’s keeping you the same and miserable.
Sure, fear has it’s place in your life. It is tremendously effective in keeping you out of danger. ...
"We attract what we are aligned with whether consciously or unconsciously."
When I read the above statement something clicked in me. I read it and instantly knew that it is True. We attract what we are aligned with - whether we know it or not.
And…oftentimes, when it comes to the areas of our lives that are the most important and we want to attract and keep what we truly value - those are the areas that feel so out of grasp, like water slipping through your fingers.
Do you agree?
A client asked me the other day, why is it so easy for me to be calm and attract things that I don’t care much about so effortlessly - but when it comes to what truly matters for me - what is most important, I feel anxious and I overanalyze - and then keep things stuck?
When you go to different levels in your own growth and evolution, new challenges with "not enough" will inevitably emerge.
I heard someone say the other day "New Level, New Devil." Very true!
Yet, our "not enoughness" at different levels need not be viewed as a "bad", but just an opportunity to get closer to your untapped potential and your life's calling/purpose.
And...like any worthwhile endeavor, you get to SEE and realize your blocks. Otherwise, they stay dormant within and hold you back. Always remember, if you can't see it, you can't transform it.
One of the biggest blocks I see with folks in their pursuit to do & BE more in their life, work and relationships, is: Believing they don't have authority. Authority over your thoughts. Authority over your self-image.
If you think...