If you identify yourself with being a can-do, go-getter, overachiever who has a track-record of getting things done - then being stuck in a rut is probably the worst feeling you could feel. It goes against the grain of everything you know about yourself and it hits hard to your identity and how you see yourself – and, where you source your value.
Imagine for a moment that you source your value and self-worth from giving.
Consider that you get a hit of adrenaline every time you accomplish, give, or prove that you’re valuable by doing or giving - whether it’s to someone or something – it feels good to get it done or provide because it feeds something in you – albeit temporarily.
Yet, at the same time, you may feel resentful and...
We all have a story we tell ourselves about how worthy or unworthy we feel based on past and current circumstances.
And, most everyone looks to create something in the future to transcend the circumstances that made you (or are making you) feel unworthy...and....hold onto the circumstances that you feel give you worth.
But have you ever considered that trying to create your life keeps you stuck in what you *think* you *should* do and have vs. allowing what is meant for you to happen?
The past two years have opened my own eyes to how mind driven I’ve been. How, even though, I’ve been following spiritual practice and “teachers”, I was still more committed to giving my mind the power and trying to control what happens vs. allowing what is meant to happen,...
“Self sabotage is when we say we want something and we go about making sure it doesn’t happen” ~Alyce P. Cornyn-Selby
You know what it is that you deeply want. You have it on a vision board or maybe you’ve written it down.
Regardless of the way in which you’ve formulated your vision, you have a good idea of what you yearn to manifest in your life.
Then why, do you sometimes take two steps forward and one (maybe two, three or twenty!) steps back just when you’re beginning to feel great, make progress and see results?
Self sabotage could be at play.
When you find yourself taking steps forward towards your vision and then suddenly, or gradually, find yourself stopping, or backing off considerably - give thought and consideration to there may be a...
Michael Singer, author and spiritual teacher said it best:
"Most of us think that nothing good is ever going to happen to us unless I make it happen. We don’t realize we think this way, but we do. We are scared inside - and we have all these concepts of how things need to be for us to be okay. We think life is a battle, a fight. Thinking life is against me and I need to make it for me. The Truth is, life does a good job by itself. Life is pretty intelligent. No human interest with the miraculous that life is.”
I don’t know about you but this statement summed up my approach to life - believing that my life should look a certain way and meet MY expectations - and if it doesn’t, something is wrong - or that I’m a failure for not being...
“We are constantly trying to hold it all together. If you really want to see why you do things, then don't do them and see what happens.” ~Michael Singer, The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself
The past few months, and years, I’ve been doing some deep personal/spiritual work. The work has helped me to get to the ROOT of some issues that I’ve been living with - that I wasn’t even aware that I had.
Michael Singer, in his book, The Untethered Soul, describes these core wounds/issues as thorns. We can choose to keep them there and do everything in our power to protect and make sure that nothing, and no one, brushes up against them to cause more pain - OR - we can remove them.
Removing them requires that you become aware of...
You know the feeling - your jaw clenches and you feel anxious and nervous…you may know what is triggering you and you may not. Regardless - you know that in that moment fear has a grip on you - and you believe whatever “it” tells you - that "it's" real.
Have you ever considered that you may have been following fear vs. following your own Truth - especially in areas of your life that mean the most to you?
And, usually the areas that make you feel the most fear - are the areas that never seem to change - do you agree?
Fear “thinks” it’s keeping you safe - but in Truth - it’s keeping you the same and miserable.
Sure, fear has it’s place in your life. It is tremendously effective in keeping you out of danger. ...
"We attract what we are aligned with whether consciously or unconsciously."
When I read the above statement something clicked in me. I read it and instantly knew that it is True. We attract what we are aligned with - whether we know it or not.
And…oftentimes, when it comes to the areas of our lives that are the most important and we want to attract and keep what we truly value - those are the areas that feel so out of grasp, like water slipping through your fingers.
Do you agree?
A client asked me the other day, why is it so easy for me to be calm and attract things that I don’t care much about so effortlessly - but when it comes to what truly matters for me - what is most important, I feel anxious and I overanalyze - and then keep things stuck?
I’ve spent a lifetime of relying on other people’s opinions.
Whether it was hiring a career consultant (notice I said consultant, not coach) to tell me what I *should* do based on my skills and background vs. my true passion...to going to a spiritual “guru” to tell me where my life was headed based on reading an astrological chart…
Whatever it was - I’ve had a lifelong habit of believing other people had my answers - and believing they knew better than I did/do.
But how can someone else know your Truth? How can someone else know and tell you which direction your life should go? Is their intuition, knowing, or spiritual connection stronger than yours?
No it isn’t..but oftentimes you may believe someone else...
I was speaking with someone recently who asked me “So when you experienced that hurt at an early-age, who did you tell about it?” “Nobody” I answered.
What this individual helped me realize is - “Nobody” quickly became my companion in life -that voice in my head who kept me company and helped me create stories about why I *think* things happened and what they meant vs. simply just letting what happened, BE.
And I’ve continued to keep Nobody around for most of my life. Relying on my mind-made stories to help me decipher events or circumstances and create meaning out of them. And...when I didn’t have a direct answer, that meaning I made up usually was a negative conclusion vs. a positive one. This conclusion...