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Knowing Who You Can Trust

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If you’ve ever had a struggle or a really difficult circumstance in your life, you most likely wanted to share the struggle with someone you trust and who can help you through it. 

Yet, at one point (or many points), you may have found yourself feeling worse after sharing your struggle with someone who didn't support you in the way you needed them to.  

In this discussion with Oprah, Brene Brown speaks to this exact situation in what she refers to as: 6 People Who Do Not Deserve To Hear Your Shame Story.  

It’s powerful to realize that you may have chosen to be vulnerable with the wrong person.  You may have chosen to be open with someone who hasn’t learned to be open with themselves.

So often on your...

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How To Make Yourself A Priority

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Your heart knows the way.  Run in that direction.  ~Rumi

Oftentimes there is a big disconnect between what your heart  deeply desires and what your head tells you that you’re capable and worthy of.   

It’s one thing to say what you want and it’s another thing to believe with every cell of your being that you’re worthy of receiving it. 

In coaching sessions, we always go for the root of what is holding someone back.  What we most often discover is something that’s totally unconscious. 

The challenges faced usually sounds something like this:  “I don’t know what it is – I just can’t do it. I know what I want, I can see it, I journal around it, write ideas in...

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Fear of Being Arrogant

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The other day I had a conversation with a friend who shared how worried she was about a health issue reoccurring in her life.  She was having some symptoms that felt familiar and started to go into a spiral of fear that her former health issues were returning. 

We talked about her shifting her thoughts.  Thinking positive.  Letting go of negative images and envisioning a good outcome.

This friend is like a fish to water when it comes to embracing a more positive mindset. Yet,  for some reason she was resisting this approach.

She prayed about it and then prayed some more.  Then, all of a sudden, it dawned on her. She realized that she’s held onto a lifelong pattern of being worried, fearful and scared when it...

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Longing To Just BE

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There comes a time in life when you hit a crossroads and realize that your old ways of ‘being’ and ‘doing’ just aren’t working anymore. 

If you’re anything like me, you are a go-getter.  Someone who is great at making things happen ‘out there’ and you’ve prided yourself on your past accomplishments and ability to achieve at whatever level that you’ve raised the bar to. 

Yet, quite often us go-getter's long for more silence and peace but aren't sure how to give ourselves permission to have it.

For years I was driven and motivated by my head.  My head  believed (and still does!) that my worth and value came from outside of me – through my outer...

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Owning Your Story

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I watched the most interesting documentary on Netflix this weekend titled:  Tell Me Who I Am.  You can watch the trailer by clicking here.

***Spoiler Alert & Disclaimer:  If you don’t want any spoilers to the documentary, stop reading now, go watch and then come back.  Also, before watching please know that the documentary discusses sexual abuse and has very sensitive content.

As the trailer describes, the story is about two twin brothers, Alex and Lewis. 

At age eighteen Alex was seriously injured in a motorcycle accident and lost all his memory.  The only person he recognized when he woke up was his twin brother Marcus.  He didn’t even recognize his own mother but he knew his twin and...

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Judgement vs. Discernment

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“Make no judgments where you have no compassion.” ~Anne McCaffrey

Judgment gets a bad rap in our society.

You hear people tell us that judging is bad and you shouldn't judge another or yourself.

I agree. 

Yet in order to function in life you do need have a tool that allows you to observe behavior and make determinations that serve you and your well being.

This key is to know the difference between judging and discernment. 

Judging is making a critical observation and concluding that you are better than the person you are judging.  This is also true for how your inner critic tries to control you through judgement of yourself!  

Discernment is the act of observing someone's behavior and making...

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Accepting What Is

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“I finally figured out the only reason to be alive is to enjoy it”.
 ~Rita Mae Brown

If there is one common denominator in the Claim Your Worth!® collaboration and coaching process it is:    helping you to balance your future aspirations while maintaining everyday peace of mind

Not such an easy mission when everything in our society screams at us to do more, be more, have more, and accomplish more. 

Yet, this balance of experiencing everyday peace while still aspiring and accomplishing what you desire is possible.  It simply takes choice.  The choice it requires is to accept ‘what is’ right now, without feeling like you’re resigning to ‘what...

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Stop Hiding From Yourself and Others

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"If the shoe doesn't fit, must we change the foot?" ~Gloria Steinem

To me, this quote by Gloria Steinem is incredibly powerful.

It speaks to what most of us are taught to do from a very early age, change and hide who we really are in order to "fit-into" situations that are uncomfortable but needed for our survival.

Have you ever considered that the parts of you that you thought were your hold-backs were just protection mechanisms?

Have you ever considered that you needed to hide away parts of you that are LIGHT, bright, capable, strong, and glowing - in order to not outshine or intimidate others?

Consider Gloria's question: "If the shoe doesn't fit, must we change the foot?"

Unfortunately most of us are taught unconsciously to...

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Accepting and Allowing MORE Into Your Life

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Whatever we are waiting for - peace of mind, contentment, grace, the inner awareness of simple abundance - it will surely come to us, but only when we are ready to receive it with an open and grateful heart. ~ Sarah Ban Breathnach

Abundance is a popular topic within the self-help/self-improvement field.  You may have started your journey with learning about the "Law of Attraction" and how others were utilizing the powers of the Universe to have more in their lives.

Abundance is different.  Abundance isn't about acquiring more stuff - although more stuff can be a part of it.  Abundance is about the relationship with Self - and knowing that you're worthy.  Period.

Abundance is about knowing that you're already enough...

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Feeling Invisible In Life

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“Can you see me? Can you hear me? Does anything I say mean anything to you?”― Oprah Winfrey

I heard Oprah Winfrey say that in all her years of interviewing people that what everyone wants to know is: Do You See Me? 

Being seen means so much more than in the literal sense of being seen.

Sure you see folks wear bright colors or a sexy outfit to be seen, but this is a different kind of seeing – a seeing that goes beyond the surface and the exterior.  The question really is:  Do you see me for who I really am – as a unique individual – ENOUGH  - just as I am – imperfections and all?

As with everything in life, anytime you want to be authentically recognized, validated, heard and...

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