"You are loved just for being who you are - just for existing. You don't have to do anything to earn it. Your shortcomings, your lack of self-esteem, physical perfection, or social and economic success - none of that matters. No one can take this love away from you and it will always be here." ~Ram Dass, "Be Love Now"
One myth is: perfection is attainable.
It definitely is not.
What’s attainable is: embracing and loving your perfections and your imperfections at the same time.
A second myth is: people in the helping profession – such as coaches, therapists, healers, etc. - whom are committed to "the work"- have it all figured out.
They/we definitely do not.
In fact, those...
“If you want a new outcome, you will have to break the habit of being yourself, and reinvent a new self.” ~Joe Dispenza
Last week during a grueling, yet energizing workout, I huffed and puffed and heard my quiet, nurturing voice inside me say: “You’re doing great, keep going.” And, at that moment, I remember thinking: “God, if you’re so nice to me, how am I ever going to ever get anything done?”
That quiet voice inside has always been there yet I never allowed myself to hear it as often as I do now.
In the past, when I was a self-proclaimed ‘workhorse’, the voice that got me to do things, get things done, and achieve - was the voice in...
"You get courage by taking actions that are inconsistent with the reality that you're living in right now. By taking actions that are unrecognizable to you, you will ensure that you live a full life, using up all of yourself and all of your potential. Otherwise psychological laziness lands us in the cowardly, resigned vibration that can only bring us more of the same."~Debbie Ford
One of the hardest things to learn in life is how to embrace and accept yourself as you are without feeling as if you need to change in order to be accepted by others.
The reason why embracing, accepting and being yourself can feel so hard and challenging is because we all have the basic human need to feel loved and belong.
Think about the inner conflict that...
Appearance has so little to do with where we should get our confidence from. But everywhere we turn we’re told we’re supposed to look this certain way. I have looked at myself in the mirror and though, This is how you look. Embrace that and move on. Confidence has nothing to do with how you look. I feel happiest when I’m with friends and I’m working really hard. ~Amy Schumer
The other day I discovered an empowering and inspirational speech that comedian Amy Schumer gave at The Gloria Awards a few years back. The speech spoke to the importance of not relying on external sources for your confidence of self worth.
You most likely know about Amy Schumer, she is comedy’s “it” girl not only because she's incredibly...
You hold the key to set yourself free from anything that is holding you back. Now, knowing that in your head and feeling it in your heart - is another story!
When you feel trapped in a past pattern where you want things to change but you can’t seem to figure out how to bring about those changes - this is an indication of, what I refer to as, a worth block.
A worth block is when you try to make a change in a certain area of your life and you feel an energetic block that keeps you from what you truly want. This block is something that you can’t put your finger on. It’s unconscious and it’s frustrating to not know what the block exactly is or why it's keeping you stuck.
To help shed...
The other day I had a conversation that got me thinking about how powerful the past is to shaping your self-concept – which is the image you hold of yourself and what you feel worthy of and what you don’t.
I’ve always known that the past was powerful, yet I didn’t realize how much power I was giving it by trying to outrun and hide from it.
I can see now that outrunning and hiding from past memories brought great gifts. I learned how to be driven, motivated and ambitious.
However, I always knew, at some level, this ambition and constant drive was a mechanism I was using to not feel or acknowledge the lack I was feeling.
It made logical sense for me to leave the past in the past – and outgrow...
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“Trust your own heart. It knows the right way.”
Decisions, decisions. They are certainly hard to make – especially when they pertain to really important things. Things that are aligned with you experiencing a brighter future.
Today I’m sharing a personal story with you that provides a real-world example of what it looks, and feels like, to make a decision from your head vs. your heart.
Years back, when I hit a wall in my career, I prayed for a miracle that would show me the way out, and into a career that I loved.
I still remember the day that I found the answer to my prayer as I googled a term that brought-up a link to an upcoming workshop that was focused on making an authentic career transition...
If you’ve ever had a struggle or a really difficult circumstance in your life, you most likely wanted to share the struggle with someone you trust and who can help you through it.
Yet, at one point (or many points), you may have found yourself feeling worse after sharing your struggle with someone who didn't support you in the way you needed them to.
In this discussion with Oprah, Brene Brown speaks to this exact situation in what she refers to as: 6 People Who Do Not Deserve To Hear Your Shame Story.
It’s powerful to realize that you may have chosen to be vulnerable with the wrong person. You may have chosen to be open with someone who hasn’t learned to be open with themselves.
So often on your...
Your heart knows the way. Run in that direction. ~Rumi
Oftentimes there is a big disconnect between what your heart deeply desires and what your head tells you that you’re capable and worthy of.
It’s one thing to say what you want and it’s another thing to believe with every cell of your being that you’re worthy of receiving it.
In coaching sessions, we always go for the root of what is holding someone back. What we most often discover is something that’s totally unconscious.
The challenges faced usually sounds something like this: “I don’t know what it is – I just can’t do it. I know what I want, I can see it, I journal around it, write ideas in...
The other day I had a conversation with a friend who shared how worried she was about a health issue reoccurring in her life. She was having some symptoms that felt familiar and started to go into a spiral of fear that her former health issues were returning.
We talked about her shifting her thoughts. Thinking positive. Letting go of negative images and envisioning a good outcome.
This friend is like a fish to water when it comes to embracing a more positive mindset. Yet, for some reason she was resisting this approach.
She prayed about it and then prayed some more. Then, all of a sudden, it dawned on her. She realized that she’s held onto a lifelong pattern of being worried, fearful and scared when it...