When you feel stressed, unsure and insecure about the future - what do you crave most? The familiar? What you know vs. what you don't know?
It's so common to want to know and to be steeped in the familiar.
Yet, if you truly want to step into a different life and experience new things for yourself and your potential - is KNOWING really what you need? Knowing what's going to happen may be what you want - but is it what you NEED?
I get it. It is so much easier to want to cling onto the familiar because it gives you a sense of security - a sense of knowing what is going to happen. But - how can things truly change if you know what's going to happen? Wouldn't that create more...
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“To conquer frustration, one must remain intensely focused on the outcome, not the obstacles.” ~T.F. Hodge
You’ve most likely heard the expression – Energy flows where your focus/attention goes...so true but have you learned how to put this Truth into practical application in your life?
I bet there is an area, or maybe several areas, in your life that feel out of alignment with how you’d ultimately like them to feel/be.
Maybe it’s in the area of your career – or finances – or relationships – or your health/well-being.
Whatever the area(s) is that you want to change, you are most likely focusing on what isn't there (aka lack thinking) vs. what is already there (abundance...
"Rise above yourself." ~Thomas Leonard
As the quote referenced above,"Rise above yourself", means to push yourself past what you think is possible for you and go deeper within to continually discover your Real Potential.
The goal is to go deeper into what you have no idea could possibly happen but you secretly hope it would/could.
I remember learning this lesson at the gym - when one of the instructors explained why we did 5 very intense rounds of the same exercise for only 30 seconds and then had us rest in between.
He explained the philosophy of pushing yourself very hard - as hard as you can for 30 seconds and what what you realize is: most likely you'll start at a level 7 and realize - as you push yourself beyond your limits - that by the...
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In the attitude of silence the soul finds the path in a clearer light, and what is elusive and deceptive resolves itself into crystal clearness. ~Mahatma Gandhi
Personally, I think clarity is very underrated and de-valued , and too much attention is put on action and getting things done.
What I've found to be true in my own life, and in the lives of the clients I work with, that when you feel a strong pull - a desperation - to get to a goal- or a finish line, usually it's because there is an unmet need that hasn't been fulfilled or paid attention to - vs. a value that is aching to be continually expressed.
In this article I wrote about the difference between Needs vs. Wants and it's a very, very important distinction.
However, our society as a whole...
If you identify yourself with being a can-do, go-getter, overachiever who has a track-record of getting things done - then being stuck in a rut is probably the worst feeling you could feel. It goes against the grain of everything you know about yourself and it hits hard to your identity and how you see yourself – and, where you source your value.
Imagine for a moment that you source your value and self-worth from giving.
Consider that you get a hit of adrenaline every time you accomplish, give, or prove that you’re valuable by doing or giving - whether it’s to someone or something – it feels good to get it done or provide because it feeds something in you – albeit temporarily.
Yet, at the same time, you may feel resentful and...