Are you on the verge of making a big change in your life/work? Or, do you have a deep desire to make a big change?
Do you know exactly what you want to see and have change - or is that vision fuzzy?
Either way, if you know in your heart and soul that a change is needed - it's having the courage to take the steps to make that change come to life - that is the biggest challenge.
One day, as I was contemplating making my own big changes - I stumbled upon a card in the store that simply read: Trust In Yourself. As I backed up to look more closely at it, the whole title read: “Trust In Yourself to Make a New Beginning”
Intrigued, I opened the card and read through some beautiful wording that described how difficult, yet exciting, it can...
When you make the all important decision to live the life you’re destined to live, you will go through a myriad of emotions. One biggie of an emotion is the “should-a, could-a, would-a” effect – where you feel “if only” I had done this – or “if only” they had done that – or “if only” it could of worked out this way.
Having regrets about your past and/or present circumstances, not only hold you back from manifesting your highest vision, but regrets also drain your energy and keep you steeped in old self-defeating programming and patterns.
To regret is to feel a sense of loss, disappointment, and an...
“Those who do not move do not notice their chains.” ~Rosa Luxemburg
I can only imagine if you’re anything like me, that you consistently feel a need to evolve and grow, to expand and ensure that you’re realizing your full potential.
I would also guess that you’re someone who at each level you aspire to, you run into new hold-backs, new limiting belief systems that you didn’t realize were there. Beliefs that run deep. Beliefs that wreak havoc on your best laid plans to go forward into your future without limits!
You’re most likely learning that, as you go forward and continue to allow yourself permission to follow your heart, that you’re realizing that your inner critic (that voice inside who tells you can't, you won't, you're not good...
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"Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it." ~ Confucius
Let's imagine that together you and I worked on creating some intentions for all areas of your life. In our process together, I would have you start with what it is that you deeply desire but rather than focus on the specifics around the desire, I would rather have you focus on the ESSENCE of your desire.
My favorite definition of the word essence is: the characteristic or intrinsic feature of a thing, which determines its identity; fundamental nature.
If you think about that - the fundamental nature - the identity - of something...you really get down to the CORE and the Truth of whatever it is that you desire.
And what's so cool about setting intentions via the coaching process is: when we...
Negative thinking is something that I believe you can identify easier than unworthy thinking.
I believe you can talk yourself out of a bad mood – it takes effort but you can do it.
Trying to talk yourself out of unworthiness? Well, that requires experience – a direct experience and shift in your soul.
Negative thinking looks and sounds like: Ugh, really? Traffic again? Why does this always happen to me when I have somewhere to be? Why do I always attract this into my life? Why can’t I catch a break?
Unworthy thinking is more unconscious.
In a moment where something on the outside triggers you, you begin to feel that same way again – this experience sparked something deep down inside you – and you begin to FEEL and then THINK those same old feelings of: "I...
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In the attitude of silence the soul finds the path in a clearer light, and what is elusive and deceptive resolves itself into crystal clearness. ~Mahatma Gandhi
Personally, I think clarity is very underrated and de-valued , and too much attention is put on action and getting things done.
What I've found to be true in my own life, and in the lives of the clients I work with, that when you feel a strong pull - a desperation - to get to a goal- or a finish line, usually it's because there is an unmet need that hasn't been fulfilled or paid attention to - vs. a value that is aching to be continually expressed.
In this article I wrote about the difference between Needs vs. Wants and it's a very, very important distinction.
However, our society as a whole...
I heard the other that day that we humans process 125-250 words per minute when we are communicating with others - whether we’re speaking or are being spoken to. Yet, when we think in our own minds, we form thoughts that are 1000-3000 words per minute.
Pretty incredible huh?
A couple of lessons come out of this Truth.
Number one is - when you aren’t fully present when you are communicating with another - your mind is very active. This means that you aren’t listening to what the other is truly saying - but *thinking* about what you’re either going to say next- or making assumptions based on what they’re saying. In either scenario, you are more in your own mind than you are in the present moment.
Same is true for the second Truth which...
“Self sabotage is when we say we want something and we go about making sure it doesn’t happen” ~Alyce P. Cornyn-Selby
You know what it is that you deeply want. You have it on a vision board or maybe you’ve written it down.
Regardless of the way in which you’ve formulated your vision, you have a good idea of what you yearn to manifest in your life.
Then why, do you sometimes take two steps forward and one (maybe two, three or twenty!) steps back just when you’re beginning to feel great, make progress and see results?
Self sabotage could be at play.
When you find yourself taking steps forward towards your vision and then suddenly, or gradually, find yourself stopping, or backing off considerably - give thought and consideration to there may be a...
Michael Singer, author and spiritual teacher said it best:
"Most of us think that nothing good is ever going to happen to us unless I make it happen. We don’t realize we think this way, but we do. We are scared inside - and we have all these concepts of how things need to be for us to be okay. We think life is a battle, a fight. Thinking life is against me and I need to make it for me. The Truth is, life does a good job by itself. Life is pretty intelligent. No human interest with the miraculous that life is.”
I don’t know about you but this statement summed up my approach to life - believing that my life should look a certain way and meet MY expectations - and if it doesn’t, something is wrong - or that I’m a failure for not being...
“We are constantly trying to hold it all together. If you really want to see why you do things, then don't do them and see what happens.” ~Michael Singer, The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself
The past few months, and years, I’ve been doing some deep personal/spiritual work. The work has helped me to get to the ROOT of some issues that I’ve been living with - that I wasn’t even aware that I had.
Michael Singer, in his book, The Untethered Soul, describes these core wounds/issues as thorns. We can choose to keep them there and do everything in our power to protect and make sure that nothing, and no one, brushes up against them to cause more pain - OR - we can remove them.
Removing them requires that you become aware of...