The beautiful thing about having a deep desire to find your life's calling through your work's expression is - it's a wonderful excuse and catalyst to grow personally as well as professionally.
If you think about it, many of the decisions you've made in the past most likely have come from what you thought you *should* do in certain areas vs. what you would have done if you didn't have any fear.
Isn't it awesome when you realize that you don't have to live by your *shoulds* but rather by what your heart is urging you to do? Think of it this way: *should* aligns with obligation and obligation stems from feeling undeserving.
However, doing what you love and what would make your heart sing and bring you joy may have hesitation around it too. ...
"You get courage by taking actions that are inconsistent with the reality that you're living in right now. By taking actions that are unrecognizable to you, you will ensure that you live a full life, using up all of yourself and all of your potential. Otherwise psychological laziness lands us in the cowardly, resigned vibration that can only bring us more of the same."~Debbie Ford
One of the hardest things to learn in life is how to embrace and accept yourself as you are without feeling as if you need to change in order to be accepted by others.
The reason why embracing, accepting and being yourself can feel so hard and challenging is because we all have the basic human need to feel loved and belong.
Think about the inner conflict that...
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In last week's article Keeping Commitments To Yourself I talked about conflicting priorities and if what you say you want isn't happening, you may be more committed to not changing for fear of losing something in your current life.
This fear of change also comes up because stepping into the unknown is cloudy. You don’t know what lies on the other side of your decisions.
Having a fear of the unknown is totally common - especially if you have a BIG Vision that you want to manifest and step into. You may daydream about things being different and better, but when you’re called on the carpet to actually commit those dreams to paper, it’s a whole different story.
Why is this?
When you are tasked with putting your Visions...
Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen." ~Winston Churchill
I've shunned myself many times for having opinions about things and for using my voice especially when others weren't in agreement about what I had to say. In fact, I've had others get down-right angry at me for expressing my feelings and opinions.
What I've realized is: having opinions and using your voice in a world full of people who want you to conform is like trying to swim upstream. It's hard and it takes a lot of strength and courage!
Feeling like you're swimming upstream is where I see so much resistance coming up for clients who know they are...
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“When you find your path, you must not be afraid. You need to have sufficient courage to make mistakes. Disappointment, defeat, and despair are the tools God uses to show us the way.” ― Paulo Coelho, Brida
The other day I had one of the best conversations with a new client whom, at the time, was trying to determine if now is the right time for her to start on the path of deeper Self discovery in life, work and relationships.
In our brief 20-minute call, she and I were able to determine the depth of her indecision and feeling overwhelmingly stuck. The key moment in the call was when she admitted: “I’m afraid to try again!”. She was so surprised when the words were uttered out of her mouth as she had no...
“Dance first, think later.” ~Samuel Beckett
When you have an important decision to make – do you tend to write out lists of the pros and cons – and consider which direction a yes could take you and which direction a no could take you?
Ahh, the beauty of being an over thinker J
Ambivalence, on the surface is defined as: the state of having simultaneous, sometimes conflicting behaviors towards something – like feeling happy and sad at the same time.
The same is true for more unconscious things – like the classic – saying you want to get more fit and work-out more – and then finding yourself sitting on the couch watching tv.
Ambivalence is normal to feel – especially when you’re making a big decision....
Don’t let the opinions of the average man/woman sway you. Dream, and he/she thinks you’re crazy. Succeed, and he/she thinks you’re lucky. Acquire wealth, and she/he thinks you’re greedy. Pay no attention. She/He simply doesn’t understand.~Robert G. Allen
In my practice I work with people who are at two different stages of their career aspirations.
One scenario is you’re at a stage where you’re seeking a more meaningful experience with work and life - and need clarity on what that vision looks like and how you can formulate it and bring it into fruition.
The second scenario is, you already have a BIG Vision in mind and you now know it’s time to step-up and step-out...
“It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.” ~Marianne Williamson
If you’ve been on the self-discovery path for a some time, there is no doubt that you’ve come up against, wrestled with and hopefully transformed your “not enough” beliefs.
And, even though each new level that you go to, you’ll inevitably face new “not enough” beliefs, rest assured that you’ll no doubt continue to tackle these as you have the tools and awareness you’ll need.
Yet, what about when you face “too much” beliefs?
“Too much” beliefs don’t get talked about as much – but they are just as prevalent on the Claim Your Worth!® path – and can be just as...
When you make the all important decision to live the life you’re destined to live, you will go through a myriad of emotions. One biggie of an emotion is the “should-a, could-a, would-a” effect – where you feel “if only” I had done this – or “if only” they had done that – or “if only” it could of worked out this way.
Having regrets about your past and/or present circumstances, not only hold you back from manifesting your highest vision, but regrets also drain your energy and keep you steeped in old self-defeating programming and patterns.
To regret is to feel a sense of loss, disappointment, and an...
“Those who do not move do not notice their chains.” ~Rosa Luxemburg
I can only imagine if you’re anything like me, that you consistently feel a need to evolve and grow, to expand and ensure that you’re realizing your full potential.
I would also guess that you’re someone who at each level you aspire to, you run into new hold-backs, new limiting belief systems that you didn’t realize were there. Beliefs that run deep. Beliefs that wreak havoc on your best laid plans to go forward into your future without limits!
You’re most likely learning that, as you go forward and continue to allow yourself permission to follow your heart, that you’re realizing that your inner critic (that voice inside who tells you can't, you won't, you're not good...