It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare. It is because we do not dare that they are difficult. ~ Seneca ~
Nothing (in my opinion,), will build your confidence faster than to have courage in the face of fear. To act when your knees are shaking and your palms are sweating. At that moment, you are taking a BIG leap of Faith and you have no idea what will happen. You are forced to jump and pray a net will be found!
I bet you've had experiences where you've looked back on something you did that was scary and thought, “Wow, I can’t believe I did that!”. Those are the moments when you get to see what you’re really made of, especially when you did something (or many...
I watched the most interesting documentary on Netflix this weekend titled: Tell Me Who I Am. You can watch the trailer by clicking here.
***Spoiler Alert & Disclaimer: If you don’t want any spoilers to the documentary, stop reading now, go watch and then come back. Also, before watching please know that the documentary discusses sexual abuse and has very sensitive content.
As the trailer describes, the story is about two twin brothers, Alex and Lewis.
At age eighteen Alex was seriously injured in a motorcycle accident and lost all his memory. The only person he recognized when he woke up was his twin brother Marcus. He didn’t even recognize his own mother but he knew his twin and...
“Make no judgments where you have no compassion.” ~Anne McCaffrey
Judgment gets a bad rap in our society.
You hear people tell us that judging is bad and you shouldn't judge another or yourself.
Yet in order to function in life you do need have a tool that allows you to observe behavior and make determinations that serve you and your well being.
This key is to know the difference between judging and discernment.
Judging is making a critical observation and concluding that you are better than the person you are judging. This is also true for how your inner critic tries to control you through judgement of yourself!
Discernment is the act of observing someone's behavior and making...
Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen." ~Winston Churchill
I've shunned myself many times for having opinions about things and for using my voice especially when others weren't in agreement about what I had to say. In fact, I've had others get down-right angry at me for expressing my feelings and opinions.
What I've realized is: having opinions and using your voice in a world full of people who want you to conform is like trying to swim upstream. It's hard and it takes a lot of strength and courage!
Feeling like you're swimming upstream is where I see so much resistance coming up for clients who know they are...
"If the shoe doesn't fit, must we change the foot?" ~Gloria Steinem
To me, this quote by Gloria Steinem is incredibly powerful.
It speaks to what most of us are taught to do from a very early age, change and hide who we really are in order to "fit-into" situations that are uncomfortable but needed for our survival.
Have you ever considered that the parts of you that you thought were your hold-backs were just protection mechanisms?
Have you ever considered that you needed to hide away parts of you that are LIGHT, bright, capable, strong, and glowing - in order to not outshine or intimidate others?
Consider Gloria's question: "If the shoe doesn't fit, must we change the foot?"
Unfortunately most of us are taught unconsciously to...
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” ~Jim Rohn
Most of us have a deep down fear of not only disappointing others, but more accurately, having them abandon us if we change.
What I’ve learned is: relationships cannot be a default in your life. You can’t allow people to be around you just because they’ve been around you for years.
As Jim Rohn’s statement says above, you truly are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Now, the BIG question is: does that statement inspire you or scare...
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“When you find your path, you must not be afraid. You need to have sufficient courage to make mistakes. Disappointment, defeat, and despair are the tools God uses to show us the way.” ― Paulo Coelho, Brida
The other day I had one of the best conversations with a new client whom, at the time, was trying to determine if now is the right time for her to start on the path of deeper Self discovery in life, work and relationships.
In our brief 20-minute call, she and I were able to determine the depth of her indecision and feeling overwhelmingly stuck. The key moment in the call was when she admitted: “I’m afraid to try again!”. She was so surprised when the words were uttered out of her mouth as she had no...
“Dance first, think later.” ~Samuel Beckett
When you have an important decision to make – do you tend to write out lists of the pros and cons – and consider which direction a yes could take you and which direction a no could take you?
Ahh, the beauty of being an over thinker J
Ambivalence, on the surface is defined as: the state of having simultaneous, sometimes conflicting behaviors towards something – like feeling happy and sad at the same time.
The same is true for more unconscious things – like the classic – saying you want to get more fit and work-out more – and then finding yourself sitting on the couch watching tv.
Ambivalence is normal to feel – especially when you’re making a big decision....
"God always gives His/Her best to those who leave the choice with Him/Her" ~ Jim Elliot
If you're anything like me, you follow the positive psychology movement that reminds you constantly of how much power you have with what and how you think - and the decisions that you make in your life.
This constant reminder to think positive, be positive, etc. - is powerful - but, can almost feel overwhelming knowing how much power you have at your fingertips!
This is why I love the quote above by Jim Elliot where he states that if we can hand over our choices to our Higher Power, then we'll realize that our true power (a.k.a. worth) lies in this sacred connection.
I see these choices not only being in what you "do", but also in what you...
Are you on the verge of making a big change in your life/work? Or, do you have a deep desire to make a big change?
Do you know exactly what you want to see and have change - or is that vision fuzzy?
Either way, if you know in your heart and soul that a change is needed - it's having the courage to take the steps to make that change come to life - that is the biggest challenge.
One day, as I was contemplating making my own big changes - I stumbled upon a card in the store that simply read: Trust In Yourself. As I backed up to look more closely at it, the whole title read: “Trust In Yourself to Make a New Beginning”
Intrigued, I opened the card and read through some beautiful wording that described how difficult, yet exciting, it can...