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Owning Your Story

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I watched the most interesting documentary on Netflix this weekend titled:  Tell Me Who I Am.  You can watch the trailer by clicking here.

***Spoiler Alert & Disclaimer:  If you don’t want any spoilers to the documentary, stop reading now, go watch and then come back.  Also, before watching please know that the documentary discusses sexual abuse and has very sensitive content.

As the trailer describes, the story is about two twin brothers, Alex and Lewis. 

At age eighteen Alex was seriously injured in a motorcycle accident and lost all his memory.  The only person he recognized when he woke up was his twin brother Marcus.  He didn’t even recognize his own mother but he knew his twin and...

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Judgement vs. Discernment

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“Make no judgments where you have no compassion.” ~Anne McCaffrey

Judgment gets a bad rap in our society.

You hear people tell us that judging is bad and you shouldn't judge another or yourself.

I agree. 

Yet in order to function in life you do need have a tool that allows you to observe behavior and make determinations that serve you and your well being.

This key is to know the difference between judging and discernment. 

Judging is making a critical observation and concluding that you are better than the person you are judging.  This is also true for how your inner critic tries to control you through judgement of yourself!  

Discernment is the act of observing someone's behavior and making...

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What Stops You From Speaking Your Truth

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Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen."  ~Winston Churchill            

I've shunned myself many times for having opinions about things and for using my voice especially when others weren't in agreement about what I had to say.  In fact, I've had others get down-right angry at me for expressing my feelings and opinions.

What I've realized is:  having opinions and using your voice in a world full of people who want you to conform is like trying to swim upstream.  It's hard and it takes a lot of strength and courage!

Feeling like you're swimming upstream is where I see so much resistance coming up for clients who know they are...

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Stop Hiding From Yourself and Others

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"If the shoe doesn't fit, must we change the foot?" ~Gloria Steinem

To me, this quote by Gloria Steinem is incredibly powerful.

It speaks to what most of us are taught to do from a very early age, change and hide who we really are in order to "fit-into" situations that are uncomfortable but needed for our survival.

Have you ever considered that the parts of you that you thought were your hold-backs were just protection mechanisms?

Have you ever considered that you needed to hide away parts of you that are LIGHT, bright, capable, strong, and glowing - in order to not outshine or intimidate others?

Consider Gloria's question: "If the shoe doesn't fit, must we change the foot?"

Unfortunately most of us are taught unconsciously to...

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Does Your Self Worth Fluctuate?

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"To walk in nature is to witness a thousand miracles."  ~Mary Davis

Have you ever wondered if your self worth fluctuates?  

It's an interesting question - and when I googled to see if anyone else had written about the topic, inevitably what popped up were suggestions for searches and articles about self-esteem fluctuating - nothing about self worth.  

This is so interesting because I've written about Self Worth vs. Self Esteem and the differences between the two.  Self worth doesn't fluctuate.  It is YOU at your core - your birthright - who you "are".  Self esteem does fluctuate because it's based on what you "do".  In a other words - self worth is internal - self esteem is all...

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Learning to Surrender

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“Don't aim at success - the more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue... as the unintended side-effect of one's personal dedication to a course greater than oneself.” ~Victor Frankl

This quote above is very profound and one I suggest you may want to print-out and contemplate. And what a perfect time to contemplate what success really means to you – as we are embarking on another year – a year full of hope, anticipation, and excitement – and another year and chance to ‘get it right’.

Yet, trying to be successful, or trying to ‘get it right’, can not only cause loads of pressure, tension and...

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Who Is In Your Inner Circle?

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“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”  ~Jim Rohn                     

Most of us have a deep down fear of not only disappointing others, but more accurately, having them abandon us if we change.   

What I’ve learned is:  relationships cannot be a default in your life.  You can’t allow people to be around you just because they’ve been around you for years.

As Jim Rohn’s statement says above, you truly are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.  Now, the BIG question is:  does that statement inspire you or scare...

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Fear of Being Disappointed (Again!)

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“When you find your path, you must not be afraid. You need to have sufficient courage to make mistakes. Disappointment, defeat, and despair are the tools God uses to show us the way.” ― Paulo Coelho, Brida

The other day I had one of the best conversations with a new client whom, at the time, was trying to determine if now is the right time for her to start on the path of deeper Self discovery in life, work and relationships.

In our brief 20-minute call, she and I were able to determine the depth of her indecision and feeling overwhelmingly stuck. The key moment in the call was when she admitted: “I’m afraid to try again!”.  She was so surprised when the words were uttered out of her mouth as she had no...

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Dealing with Uncertainty

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When you feel stressed, unsure and insecure about the future - what do you crave most?  The familiar?  What you know vs. what you don't know?  

It's so common to want to know and to be steeped in the familiar. 

Yet, if you truly want to step into a different life and experience new things for yourself and your potential - is KNOWING really what you need?  Knowing what's going to happen may be what you want - but is it what you NEED?  

I get it.  It is so much easier to want to cling onto the familiar because it gives you a sense of security - a sense of knowing what is going to happen.  But - how can things truly change if you know what's going to happen?  Wouldn't that create more...

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