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We Teach What We Most Need To Learn

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“We work on ourselves in order to help others, but also we help others in order to work on ourselves.”  — Pema Chödrön

The biggest misconception many people have is - believing that those that are called to teach and coach have it all figured out. We don’t. That’s the point.

Oftentimes I’ve found myself begrudging my circumstances - whether present or past thinking:  “This isn’t right. This shouldn’t be happening to me. Haven’t I transcended and outgrown this by now?”
These questions always served me a nice big piece of humble pie.

I’ve learned through direct experience that if you are committed to being of true service in this world, then...

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Stop Hiding From Yourself and Others

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"If the shoe doesn't fit, must we change the foot?" ~Gloria Steinem

To me, this quote by Gloria Steinem is incredibly powerful.

It speaks to what most of us are taught to do from a very early age, change and hide who we really are in order to "fit-into" situations that are uncomfortable but needed for our survival.

Have you ever considered that the parts of you that you thought were your hold-backs were just protection mechanisms?

Have you ever considered that you needed to hide away parts of you that are LIGHT, bright, capable, strong, and glowing - in order to not outshine or intimidate others?

Consider Gloria's question: "If the shoe doesn't fit, must we change the foot?"

Unfortunately most of us are taught unconsciously to...

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How To Not Settle For Less

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"I ain't settling for just getting by. I've had enough "so so" for the rest of my life.  Tired of shooting too low, so raise the bar high.   Just enough ain't enough this time.  I ain't settling for anything less than everything!" ~Lyrics from Ainít Settlin, Sugarland 

How many times have you felt like your heart and soul have urged you to explore the MORE within  - yet a part of you crops up to remind you to: "Don't even think about it  - it's not meant for you, stay where you are, youíre safer here..."?

If you take the word Settle - and explore the opposite of it, (thanks to www.opposite-word.com) you find the words: "confuse, mix up, unsettle". 

No wonder it feels scary to...

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Feeling Invisible In Life

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“Can you see me? Can you hear me? Does anything I say mean anything to you?”― Oprah Winfrey

I heard Oprah Winfrey say that in all her years of interviewing people that what everyone wants to know is: Do You See Me? 

Being seen means so much more than in the literal sense of being seen.

Sure you see folks wear bright colors or a sexy outfit to be seen, but this is a different kind of seeing – a seeing that goes beyond the surface and the exterior.  The question really is:  Do you see me for who I really am – as a unique individual – ENOUGH  - just as I am – imperfections and all?

As with everything in life, anytime you want to be authentically recognized, validated, heard and...

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Who Is In Your Inner Circle?

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“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”  ~Jim Rohn                     

Most of us have a deep down fear of not only disappointing others, but more accurately, having them abandon us if we change.   

What I’ve learned is:  relationships cannot be a default in your life.  You can’t allow people to be around you just because they’ve been around you for years.

As Jim Rohn’s statement says above, you truly are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.  Now, the BIG question is:  does that statement inspire you or scare...

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Aligning Your Head & Heart

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"The expression of divinity is in variety." ~Sheri S. Tepper

If you are someone who longs to follow your soul's path and purpose - you most likely struggle with the balance of what your soul needs and what your head wants.  

You may struggle with ensuring you are being responsible with your everyday decisions  - and taking care of your basic life necessities - while also honoring your soul and the evolution it craves.  

So, as with everything in life that we strive for, balance is needed.  Not balance in a perfectionism way, but balance in a way that you're acknowledging all your needs- especially the needs of your heart and your head - which are very different.

To help give some clarity around...

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The Power To Surrender

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"God always gives His/Her best to those who leave the choice with Him/Her" ~ Jim Elliot

If you're anything like me, you follow the positive psychology movement that reminds you constantly of how much power you have with what and how you think - and the decisions that you make in your life. 

This constant reminder to think positive, be positive, etc. - is powerful - but, can almost feel overwhelming knowing how much power you have at your fingertips!

This is why I love the quote above by Jim Elliot where he states that if we can hand over our choices to our Higher Power, then we'll realize that our true power (a.k.a. worth) lies in this sacred connection.  

I see these choices not only being in what you "do", but also in what you...

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Self Help Addiction

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Coaching doesn't make sick people well - it helps healthy people become extra-ordinary. ~Thomas Leonard

Last week I had a conversation with a close friend about how we all can get into the trap of self-help addiction and believing that paying attention to your growth and evolution means fixing yourself.

In other words, there is something wrong with you that needs to be helped, (a.k.a. self-help).

Not true. There isn't anything wrong with you - and nothing that needs to be "fixed". 

Even Iyanla Vanzant, who has her own show on OWN called Iyanla Fix My Life - insists that she doesn't fix anyone's life but gives people the tools to do it themselves.

That is really the key:  realizing you have the power vs. believing that you need to fixed or changed in...

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Feeling Guilty For Wanting MORE?

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“Believe you can and you're halfway there.” ~Theodore Roosevelt

In your life you’ve most likely doubted yourself, your abilities, and your overall self-worth at some point, right?

Well, that’s actually a really good thing (say what?!?) because if you didn’t feel self-doubt, or struggle with your overall worthiness, then you wouldn’t be living up to your full potential and experiencing the growth and evolution that your soul longs for.

See, your dreams, desires, and adventures that you long manifest into reality - have absolutely nothing to do with your overall worthiness or feeling deserving, or ‘good enough’ - but in actuality, have everything to do with what your soul came to experience and needs...

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Fear of Being Too Much

 “It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.”  ~Marianne Williamson

If you’ve been on the self-discovery path for a some time, there is no doubt that you’ve come up against, wrestled with and hopefully transformed your “not enough” beliefs.

 And, even though each new level that you go to, you’ll inevitably face new “not enough” beliefs, rest assured that you’ll no doubt continue to tackle these as you have the tools and awareness you’ll need. 

 Yet, what about when you face “too much” beliefs? 

“Too much” beliefs don’t get talked about as much – but they are just as prevalent on the Claim Your Worth!® path – and can be just as...

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