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Pressure of Trying To Be Perfect

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"You are loved just for being who you are - just for existing.  You don't have to do anything to earn it.  Your shortcomings, your lack of self-esteem, physical perfection, or social and economic success - none of that matters.  No one can take this love away from you and it will always be here."  ~Ram Dass, "Be Love Now"

One myth is:  perfection is attainable. 

It definitely is not. 

What’s attainable is:  embracing and loving your perfections and your imperfections at the same time.

A second myth is:  people in the helping profession – such as coaches, therapists, healers, etc. - whom are committed to "the work"- have it all figured out. 

They/we definitely do not. 

In fact, those...

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Courage to Move Forward

The beautiful thing about having a deep desire to find your life's calling through your work's expression is - it's a wonderful excuse and catalyst to grow personally as well as professionally.  

If you think about it, many of the decisions you've made in the past most likely have come from what you thought you *should* do in certain areas vs. what you would have done if you didn't have any fear. 

Isn't it awesome when you realize that you don't have to live by your *shoulds* but rather by what your heart is urging you to do?   Think of it this way: *should* aligns with obligation and obligation stems from feeling undeserving. 

However, doing what you love and what would make your heart sing and bring you joy may have  hesitation around it too. ...

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How To Not Be Hard On Yourself

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 “If you want a new outcome, you will have to break the habit of being yourself, and reinvent a new self.” ~Joe Dispenza

Last week during a grueling, yet energizing workout,  I huffed and puffed and heard my quiet, nurturing voice inside me say:  “You’re doing great, keep going.” And, at that moment, I remember thinking:  “God, if you’re so nice to me, how am I ever going to ever get anything done?” 

That quiet voice inside has always been there yet I never allowed myself to hear it as often as I do now. 

In the past, when I was a self-proclaimed ‘workhorse’, the voice that got me to do things, get things done, and achieve - was the voice in...

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Live A Life True To Yourself

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"You get courage by taking actions that are inconsistent with the reality that you're living in right now. By taking actions that are unrecognizable to you, you will ensure that you live a full life, using up all of yourself and all of your potential. Otherwise psychological laziness lands us in the cowardly, resigned vibration that can only bring us more of the same."~Debbie Ford

One of the hardest things to learn in life is how to embrace and accept yourself as you are without feeling as if you need to change in order to be accepted by others.

The reason why embracing, accepting and being yourself can feel so hard and challenging is because we all have the basic human need to feel loved and belong. 

Think about the inner conflict that...

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Changing Your Personal Narrative

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The other day I had a conversation that got me thinking about how powerful the past is to shaping your self-concept – which is the image you hold of yourself and what you feel worthy of and what you don’t. 

I’ve always known that the past was powerful, yet I didn’t realize how much power I was giving it by trying to outrun and hide from it. 

I can see now that outrunning and hiding from past memories brought great gifts.  I learned how to be driven, motivated and ambitious. 

However, I always knew, at some level, this ambition and constant drive was a mechanism I was using to not feel or acknowledge the lack I was feeling. 

It made logical sense for me to leave the past in the past – and outgrow...

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Facing A Crossroads In Life

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“Trust your own heart. It knows the right way.”


Decisions, decisions. They are certainly hard to make – especially when they pertain to really important things. Things that are aligned with you experiencing a brighter future.

Today I’m sharing a personal story with you that provides a real-world example of what it looks, and feels like, to make a decision from your head vs. your heart.   

Years back, when I hit a wall in my career, I prayed for a miracle that would show me the way out, and into a career that I loved. 

I still remember the day that I found the answer to my prayer as I googled a term that brought-up a link to an upcoming workshop that was focused on making an authentic career transition...

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Keeping Commitments To Yourself

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“The biggest commitment you must keep is the commitment you keep to yourself.” ~Neale Donald Walsch

Do you fear being judged if you share your dreams with anyone, even yourself?  Do you have resistance to writing your dreams down?   If so, you may fear two things when it comes to sharing your deep heart's desire:   

1) Hearing your own critical voice judging you. 

2) Hearing judgement from other people (especially people closest to you) and losing their love if you step into a new, authentic version of yourself.

I read recently that one of the top 6 fears that people have about succeeding and changing is the fear of losing love. 

Therefore you may stay stuck for fear of making others feel...

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Knowing Who You Can Trust

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If you’ve ever had a struggle or a really difficult circumstance in your life, you most likely wanted to share the struggle with someone you trust and who can help you through it. 

Yet, at one point (or many points), you may have found yourself feeling worse after sharing your struggle with someone who didn't support you in the way you needed them to.  

In this discussion with Oprah, Brene Brown speaks to this exact situation in what she refers to as: 6 People Who Do Not Deserve To Hear Your Shame Story.  

It’s powerful to realize that you may have chosen to be vulnerable with the wrong person.  You may have chosen to be open with someone who hasn’t learned to be open with themselves.

So often on your...

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How To Make Yourself A Priority

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Your heart knows the way.  Run in that direction.  ~Rumi

Oftentimes there is a big disconnect between what your heart  deeply desires and what your head tells you that you’re capable and worthy of.   

It’s one thing to say what you want and it’s another thing to believe with every cell of your being that you’re worthy of receiving it. 

In coaching sessions, we always go for the root of what is holding someone back.  What we most often discover is something that’s totally unconscious. 

The challenges faced usually sounds something like this:  “I don’t know what it is – I just can’t do it. I know what I want, I can see it, I journal around it, write ideas in...

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Longing To Just BE

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There comes a time in life when you hit a crossroads and realize that your old ways of ‘being’ and ‘doing’ just aren’t working anymore. 

If you’re anything like me, you are a go-getter.  Someone who is great at making things happen ‘out there’ and you’ve prided yourself on your past accomplishments and ability to achieve at whatever level that you’ve raised the bar to. 

Yet, quite often us go-getter's long for more silence and peace but aren't sure how to give ourselves permission to have it.

For years I was driven and motivated by my head.  My head  believed (and still does!) that my worth and value came from outside of me – through my outer...

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