“If God had wanted me otherwise, He would have created me otherwise.” ~Johann von Goethe
In order to live the life you were designed to live - it’s critical to understand yourself at the deepest level.
Yet, most of us were taught to cover-up the core of who we are in order to be accepted by others in both our original family of origin, and our peer groups growing up.
Becoming who you were designed to be is a courageous act because it requires you to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. It requires you to understand that not everyone is going to approve of what you do and who you commit to becoming.
The most important and courageous act in being your own person is: accepting and loving ALL parts of yourself first and...
The other day I had a very cool Human Design Chart Reading with a woman who my good friend Leslie recommended to me.
It was fascinating to see the chart based on my birthplace & birth time - similar to an astrology chart.
What was most interesting was when she said to me – and I’m paraphrasing: “You have a set way of being – that is imprinted from the inside – vs. imprinted from the outside. Your chart shows that you have strong knowing, instincts and intuition – and that when you are in flow with these, you are in your power.”
She went on to say: “Your chart also has very open areas – which shows that you can be open to other people, empathize with...
Lately, I’ve been waking up in the middle of the night – 3am to be exact – with a racing heart.
I try my best to go back to sleep – but I can’t seem to stop my mind from racing. Often when this happens, I’ll put on a podcast or begin scrolling online to distract myself.
But recently I decided to get quiet and listen to the anxiety and what “it” was trying to tell me.
By listening in to the stress, I realized my mind wants to know what’s next. My mind wants to figure everything out and have a plan for where I’m going and how I’m continuing to evolve and be my Best Self. My mind is worried if I’m on or off the course to my purpose - and if I’m...
"You are loved just for being who you are - just for existing. You don't have to do anything to earn it. Your shortcomings, your lack of self-esteem, physical perfection, or social and economic success - none of that matters. No one can take this love away from you and it will always be here." ~Ram Dass, "Be Love Now"
One myth is: perfection is attainable.
It definitely is not.
What’s attainable is: embracing and loving your perfections and your imperfections at the same time.
A second myth is: people in the helping profession – such as coaches, therapists, healers, etc. - whom are committed to "the work"- have it all figured out.
They/we definitely do not.
In fact, those...
The beautiful thing about having a deep desire to find your life's calling through your work's expression is - it's a wonderful excuse and catalyst to grow personally as well as professionally.
If you think about it, many of the decisions you've made in the past most likely have come from what you thought you *should* do in certain areas vs. what you would have done if you didn't have any fear.
Isn't it awesome when you realize that you don't have to live by your *shoulds* but rather by what your heart is urging you to do? Think of it this way: *should* aligns with obligation and obligation stems from feeling undeserving.
However, doing what you love and what would make your heart sing and bring you joy may have hesitation around it too. ...
“If you want a new outcome, you will have to break the habit of being yourself, and reinvent a new self.” ~Joe Dispenza
Last week during a grueling, yet energizing workout, I huffed and puffed and heard my quiet, nurturing voice inside me say: “You’re doing great, keep going.” And, at that moment, I remember thinking: “God, if you’re so nice to me, how am I ever going to ever get anything done?”
That quiet voice inside has always been there yet I never allowed myself to hear it as often as I do now.
In the past, when I was a self-proclaimed ‘workhorse’, the voice that got me to do things, get things done, and achieve - was the voice in...
"You get courage by taking actions that are inconsistent with the reality that you're living in right now. By taking actions that are unrecognizable to you, you will ensure that you live a full life, using up all of yourself and all of your potential. Otherwise psychological laziness lands us in the cowardly, resigned vibration that can only bring us more of the same."~Debbie Ford
One of the hardest things to learn in life is how to embrace and accept yourself as you are without feeling as if you need to change in order to be accepted by others.
The reason why embracing, accepting and being yourself can feel so hard and challenging is because we all have the basic human need to feel loved and belong.
Think about the inner conflict that...
The other day I had a conversation that got me thinking about how powerful the past is to shaping your self-concept – which is the image you hold of yourself and what you feel worthy of and what you don’t.
I’ve always known that the past was powerful, yet I didn’t realize how much power I was giving it by trying to outrun and hide from it.
I can see now that outrunning and hiding from past memories brought great gifts. I learned how to be driven, motivated and ambitious.
However, I always knew, at some level, this ambition and constant drive was a mechanism I was using to not feel or acknowledge the lack I was feeling.
It made logical sense for me to leave the past in the past – and outgrow...
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“Trust your own heart. It knows the right way.”
Decisions, decisions. They are certainly hard to make – especially when they pertain to really important things. Things that are aligned with you experiencing a brighter future.
Today I’m sharing a personal story with you that provides a real-world example of what it looks, and feels like, to make a decision from your head vs. your heart.
Years back, when I hit a wall in my career, I prayed for a miracle that would show me the way out, and into a career that I loved.
I still remember the day that I found the answer to my prayer as I googled a term that brought-up a link to an upcoming workshop that was focused on making an authentic career transition...
“The biggest commitment you must keep is the commitment you keep to yourself.” ~Neale Donald Walsch
Do you fear being judged if you share your dreams with anyone, even yourself? Do you have resistance to writing your dreams down? If so, you may fear two things when it comes to sharing your deep heart's desire:
1) Hearing your own critical voice judging you.
2) Hearing judgement from other people (especially people closest to you) and losing their love if you step into a new, authentic version of yourself.
I read recently that one of the top 6 fears that people have about succeeding and changing is the fear of losing love.
Therefore you may stay stuck for fear of making others feel...