The other day I had a conversation that got me thinking about how powerful the past is to shaping your self-concept – which is the image you hold of yourself and what you feel worthy of and what you don’t.
I’ve always known that the past was powerful, yet I didn’t realize how much power I was giving it by trying to outrun and hide from it.
I can see now that outrunning and hiding from past memories brought great gifts. I learned how to be driven, motivated and ambitious.
However, I always knew, at some level, this ambition and constant drive was a mechanism I was using to not feel or acknowledge the lack I was feeling.
It made logical sense for me to leave the past in the past – and outgrow...
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“Trust your own heart. It knows the right way.”
Decisions, decisions. They are certainly hard to make – especially when they pertain to really important things. Things that are aligned with you experiencing a brighter future.
Today I’m sharing a personal story with you that provides a real-world example of what it looks, and feels like, to make a decision from your head vs. your heart.
Years back, when I hit a wall in my career, I prayed for a miracle that would show me the way out, and into a career that I loved.
I still remember the day that I found the answer to my prayer as I googled a term that brought-up a link to an upcoming workshop that was focused on making an authentic career transition...
“The biggest commitment you must keep is the commitment you keep to yourself.” ~Neale Donald Walsch
Do you fear being judged if you share your dreams with anyone, even yourself? Do you have resistance to writing your dreams down? If so, you may fear two things when it comes to sharing your deep heart's desire:
1) Hearing your own critical voice judging you.
2) Hearing judgement from other people (especially people closest to you) and losing their love if you step into a new, authentic version of yourself.
I read recently that one of the top 6 fears that people have about succeeding and changing is the fear of losing love.
Therefore you may stay stuck for fear of making others feel...
If you’ve ever had a struggle or a really difficult circumstance in your life, you most likely wanted to share the struggle with someone you trust and who can help you through it.
Yet, at one point (or many points), you may have found yourself feeling worse after sharing your struggle with someone who didn't support you in the way you needed them to.
In this discussion with Oprah, Brene Brown speaks to this exact situation in what she refers to as: 6 People Who Do Not Deserve To Hear Your Shame Story.
It’s powerful to realize that you may have chosen to be vulnerable with the wrong person. You may have chosen to be open with someone who hasn’t learned to be open with themselves.
So often on your...
Your heart knows the way. Run in that direction. ~Rumi
Oftentimes there is a big disconnect between what your heart deeply desires and what your head tells you that you’re capable and worthy of.
It’s one thing to say what you want and it’s another thing to believe with every cell of your being that you’re worthy of receiving it.
In coaching sessions, we always go for the root of what is holding someone back. What we most often discover is something that’s totally unconscious.
The challenges faced usually sounds something like this: “I don’t know what it is – I just can’t do it. I know what I want, I can see it, I journal around it, write ideas in...
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There comes a time in life when you hit a crossroads and realize that your old ways of ‘being’ and ‘doing’ just aren’t working anymore.
If you’re anything like me, you are a go-getter. Someone who is great at making things happen ‘out there’ and you’ve prided yourself on your past accomplishments and ability to achieve at whatever level that you’ve raised the bar to.
Yet, quite often us go-getter's long for more silence and peace but aren't sure how to give ourselves permission to have it.
For years I was driven and motivated by my head. My head believed (and still does!) that my worth and value came from outside of me – through my outer...
I watched the most interesting documentary on Netflix this weekend titled: Tell Me Who I Am. You can watch the trailer by clicking here.
***Spoiler Alert & Disclaimer: If you don’t want any spoilers to the documentary, stop reading now, go watch and then come back. Also, before watching please know that the documentary discusses sexual abuse and has very sensitive content.
As the trailer describes, the story is about two twin brothers, Alex and Lewis.
At age eighteen Alex was seriously injured in a motorcycle accident and lost all his memory. The only person he recognized when he woke up was his twin brother Marcus. He didn’t even recognize his own mother but he knew his twin and...
“Make no judgments where you have no compassion.” ~Anne McCaffrey
Judgment gets a bad rap in our society.
You hear people tell us that judging is bad and you shouldn't judge another or yourself.
Yet in order to function in life you do need have a tool that allows you to observe behavior and make determinations that serve you and your well being.
This key is to know the difference between judging and discernment.
Judging is making a critical observation and concluding that you are better than the person you are judging. This is also true for how your inner critic tries to control you through judgement of yourself!
Discernment is the act of observing someone's behavior and making...
“We work on ourselves in order to help others, but also we help others in order to work on ourselves.” — Pema Chödrön
The biggest misconception many people have is - believing that those that are called to teach and coach have it all figured out. We don’t. That’s the point.
Oftentimes I’ve found myself begrudging my circumstances - whether present or past thinking: “This isn’t right. This shouldn’t be happening to me. Haven’t I transcended and outgrown this by now?”
These questions always served me a nice big piece of humble pie.
I’ve learned through direct experience that if you are committed to being of true service in this world, then...
"If the shoe doesn't fit, must we change the foot?" ~Gloria Steinem
To me, this quote by Gloria Steinem is incredibly powerful.
It speaks to what most of us are taught to do from a very early age, change and hide who we really are in order to "fit-into" situations that are uncomfortable but needed for our survival.
Have you ever considered that the parts of you that you thought were your hold-backs were just protection mechanisms?
Have you ever considered that you needed to hide away parts of you that are LIGHT, bright, capable, strong, and glowing - in order to not outshine or intimidate others?
Consider Gloria's question: "If the shoe doesn't fit, must we change the foot?"
Unfortunately most of us are taught unconsciously to...