Most of us are stuck in unconscious thought patterns that don't serve and keep us stuck in the past or the future – and how most of us don’t value the NOW.
We all hear this message “out there” in various forms and messages. Be Present. Stay in the moment. All we have is NOW. The present is a present.
True, but how do you apply these concepts to your life? How do you realize what being in the NOW actually gives to your life right now?
The whole concept of being in the NOW is to give yourself the gift (a.k.a. present) of connecting with Truth vs. listening to the voice in your head. We all have the mind chatter that wants to keep feeding off the past – or focusing on what may (or may not) happen in the...
I heard the other that day that we humans process 125-250 words per minute when we are communicating with others - whether we’re speaking or are being spoken to. Yet, when we think in our own minds, we form thoughts that are 1000-3000 words per minute.
Pretty incredible huh?
A couple of lessons come out of this Truth.
Number one is - when you aren’t fully present when you are communicating with another - your mind is very active. This means that you aren’t listening to what the other is truly saying - but *thinking* about what you’re either going to say next- or making assumptions based on what they’re saying. In either scenario, you are more in your own mind than you are in the present moment.
Same is true for the second Truth which...
Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore.Dream. Discover"
-- MARK TWAIN
Several years ago when I was in a major transition period of reinventing my life and my work, I was feeling a need for something, I just wasn't sure what that something was.
I had just finished up work with a coach to help me with some tactical things - and was now at a stage where I knew I needed some support and some encouragement, but in a much deeper way.
One day while listening to a radio show, I heard a woman who was being interviewed about her personal history and background, and her coaching philosophy. I...
When was the last time you sat down and acknowledged yourself for what youve accomplished, overcome, realized about yourself, contributed to others, etc. - in the last few months, and even the last several years?
Do you have a memory of this or is the answer - not so much. Or never?
If you havent been making it a ritual to acknowledge yourself and how much progress and contribution you make every day and every year - then I highly recommend making this a new habit in your life.
Most of us were brought up to believe that to acknowledge yourself for anything means that youre a show-off, know-it-all, or youre self-absorbed. And as a result of this, there is a subconscious fear and message running like a tape drive in your mind saying whatever you do, its never going to be...
We all have a story we tell ourselves about how worthy or unworthy we feel based on past and current circumstances.
And, most everyone looks to create something in the future to transcend the circumstances that made you (or are making you) feel unworthy...and....hold onto the circumstances that you feel give you worth.
But have you ever considered that trying to create your life keeps you stuck in what you *think* you *should* do and have vs. allowing what is meant for you to happen?
The past two years have opened my own eyes to how mind driven I’ve been. How, even though, I’ve been following spiritual practice and “teachers”, I was still more committed to giving my mind the power and trying to control what happens vs. allowing what is meant to happen,...
“Self sabotage is when we say we want something and we go about making sure it doesn’t happen” ~Alyce P. Cornyn-Selby
You know what it is that you deeply want. You have it on a vision board or maybe you’ve written it down.
Regardless of the way in which you’ve formulated your vision, you have a good idea of what you yearn to manifest in your life.
Then why, do you sometimes take two steps forward and one (maybe two, three or twenty!) steps back just when you’re beginning to feel great, make progress and see results?
Self sabotage could be at play.
When you find yourself taking steps forward towards your vision and then suddenly, or gradually, find yourself stopping, or backing off considerably - give thought and consideration to there may be a...
Michael Singer, author and spiritual teacher said it best:
"Most of us think that nothing good is ever going to happen to us unless I make it happen. We don’t realize we think this way, but we do. We are scared inside - and we have all these concepts of how things need to be for us to be okay. We think life is a battle, a fight. Thinking life is against me and I need to make it for me. The Truth is, life does a good job by itself. Life is pretty intelligent. No human interest with the miraculous that life is.”
I don’t know about you but this statement summed up my approach to life - believing that my life should look a certain way and meet MY expectations - and if it doesn’t, something is wrong - or that I’m a failure for not being...
“We are constantly trying to hold it all together. If you really want to see why you do things, then don't do them and see what happens.” ~Michael Singer, The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself
The past few months, and years, I’ve been doing some deep personal/spiritual work. The work has helped me to get to the ROOT of some issues that I’ve been living with - that I wasn’t even aware that I had.
Michael Singer, in his book, The Untethered Soul, describes these core wounds/issues as thorns. We can choose to keep them there and do everything in our power to protect and make sure that nothing, and no one, brushes up against them to cause more pain - OR - we can remove them.
Removing them requires that you become aware of...
Seeking validation from outside sources (other people or material things) - is a clear indication of a lack of self-trust.
In other words, when you don’t trust what you know to be true about you, your circumstances, and your potential - you want to know that others know.
To validate means to make valid, substantiate, confirm. Imagine the amount of personal power you give away by seeking outside validation.
What if you took that energy you put into seeking other people’s approval - or an accomplishment, credential or whatever - and went within and validated yourself? Imagine the power and energy you’d gain if you stopped wanting others to recognize you and give you significance.
This is right here is the majority of my work with clients. Yes we...
This statement about needs vs. wants , says something so groundbreaking, so fundamental to your ability to experience inner well-being that it could potentially go unnoticed.
Treating your needs as optional is something most all of us have done, or continue to do each day without even realizing it. This is a habit of self-sabotagewhere you may continually ignore needs that you have without even realizing that’s what you’re doing.
Without knowing that you even have needs, let alone even have the right to honor them, is what can be troubling and will, without a doubt, cause havoc in your life and your overall well-being.
If you’re someone who has loads of responsibilities on your plate – a family, work, relationships and a slew of other responsibilities and...