“Be yourself, not your idea of what you think somebody else's idea of yourself should be.” Henry David Thoreau
According to Dictionary.com, the word “chase” has many definitions. All of them amount to key words such as: to pursue in to order to seize, overtake; to capture or kill, as game; hunt; to follow or devote one's attention to with the hope of attracting, winning, gaining; to drive or expel by force, threat, or harassment.
When you look-up “claim” on Dictionary.com, you find definitions including: to demand by or as by virtue of a right; demand as a right or as due; to assert and demand the recognition of (a right, title, possession, etc.); assert one's right to; to assert or maintain as a fact; ...
"If the shoe doesn't fit, must we change the foot?" ~Gloria Steinem
To me, this quote by Gloria Steinem is incredibly powerful.
It speaks to what most of us are taught to do from a very early age, change and hide who we really are in order to "fit-into" situations that are uncomfortable but needed for our survival.
Have you ever considered that the parts of you that you thought were your hold-backs were just protection mechanisms?
Have you ever considered that you needed to hide away parts of you that are LIGHT, bright, capable, strong, and glowing - in order to not outshine or intimidate others?
Consider Gloria's question: "If the shoe doesn't fit, must we change the foot?"
Unfortunately most of us are taught unconsciously to...
Whatever we are waiting for - peace of mind, contentment, grace, the inner awareness of simple abundance - it will surely come to us, but only when we are ready to receive it with an open and grateful heart. ~ Sarah Ban Breathnach
Abundance is a popular topic within the self-help/self-improvement field. You may have started your journey with learning about the "Law of Attraction" and how others were utilizing the powers of the Universe to have more in their lives.
Abundance is different. Abundance isn't about acquiring more stuff - although more stuff can be a part of it. Abundance is about the relationship with Self - and knowing that you're worthy. Period.
Abundance is about knowing that you're already enough...
"To walk in nature is to witness a thousand miracles." ~Mary Davis
Have you ever wondered if your self worth fluctuates?
It's an interesting question - and when I googled to see if anyone else had written about the topic, inevitably what popped up were suggestions for searches and articles about self-esteem fluctuating - nothing about self worth.
This is so interesting because I've written about Self Worth vs. Self Esteem and the differences between the two. Self worth doesn't fluctuate. It is YOU at your core - your birthright - who you "are". Self esteem does fluctuate because it's based on what you "do". In a other words - self worth is internal - self esteem is all...
"I ain't settling for just getting by. I've had enough "so so" for the rest of my life. Tired of shooting too low, so raise the bar high. Just enough ain't enough this time. I ain't settling for anything less than everything!" ~Lyrics from Ainít Settlin, Sugarland
How many times have you felt like your heart and soul have urged you to explore the MORE within - yet a part of you crops up to remind you to: "Don't even think about it - it's not meant for you, stay where you are, youíre safer here..."?
If you take the word Settle - and explore the opposite of it, (thanks to www.opposite-word.com) you find the words: "confuse, mix up, unsettle".
No wonder it feels scary to...
“Don't aim at success - the more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue... as the unintended side-effect of one's personal dedication to a course greater than oneself.” ~Victor Frankl
This quote above is very profound and one I suggest you may want to print-out and contemplate. And what a perfect time to contemplate what success really means to you – as we are embarking on another year – a year full of hope, anticipation, and excitement – and another year and chance to ‘get it right’.
Yet, trying to be successful, or trying to ‘get it right’, can not only cause loads of pressure, tension and...
“Can you see me? Can you hear me? Does anything I say mean anything to you?”― Oprah Winfrey
I heard Oprah Winfrey say that in all her years of interviewing people that what everyone wants to know is: Do You See Me?
Being seen means so much more than in the literal sense of being seen.
Sure you see folks wear bright colors or a sexy outfit to be seen, but this is a different kind of seeing – a seeing that goes beyond the surface and the exterior. The question really is: Do you see me for who I really am – as a unique individual – ENOUGH - just as I am – imperfections and all?
As with everything in life, anytime you want to be authentically recognized, validated, heard and...
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”The pain that you’ve been feeling can’t compare to the joy that’s coming.” ~Romans 8:18
I heard a statement the other day that really struck me . I knew in an instant that it was true. Here it is: “The deeper the pain, the deeper the Truth there is to discover”.
We live in a world of contrast…opposites…light and dark…up and down….what goes up, must come down – and so on.
So, what does this mean to your life? A whole lot.
Consider an area of your life that has royally challenged you. An area that has maybe caused you pain or at least lots of discontent. Other areas of your life may flow easily (or easier) but this one area seems to...
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” ~Jim Rohn
Most of us have a deep down fear of not only disappointing others, but more accurately, having them abandon us if we change.
What I’ve learned is: relationships cannot be a default in your life. You can’t allow people to be around you just because they’ve been around you for years.
As Jim Rohn’s statement says above, you truly are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Now, the BIG question is: does that statement inspire you or scare...
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“When you find your path, you must not be afraid. You need to have sufficient courage to make mistakes. Disappointment, defeat, and despair are the tools God uses to show us the way.” ― Paulo Coelho, Brida
The other day I had one of the best conversations with a new client whom, at the time, was trying to determine if now is the right time for her to start on the path of deeper Self discovery in life, work and relationships.
In our brief 20-minute call, she and I were able to determine the depth of her indecision and feeling overwhelmingly stuck. The key moment in the call was when she admitted: “I’m afraid to try again!”. She was so surprised when the words were uttered out of her mouth as she had no...