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“Trust your own heart. It knows the right way.”
Decisions, decisions. They are certainly hard to make – especially when they pertain to really important things. Things that are aligned with you experiencing a brighter future.
Today I’m sharing a personal story with you that provides a real-world example of what it looks, and feels like, to make a decision from your head vs. your heart.
Years back, when I hit a wall in my career, I prayed for a miracle that would show me the way out, and into a career that I loved.
I still remember the day that I found the answer to my prayer as I googled a term that brought-up a link to an upcoming workshop that was focused on making an authentic career transition...
“If you've been trying unsuccessfully to change a habit, understand that there is usually one hidden advantage or liking for that particular behavior just below your conscious awareness.” ~Hale Dwoskin
Steven Covey said it best when he said: “Our character is a composite of our habits, which form a powerful factor in our lives. Because habits are consistent, unconscious patterns, they constantly express our character and produce our effectiveness and ineffectiveness.”
Covey says that "Habits have a strong gravitational pull - and breaking deeply imbedded habitual tendencies, such as procrastination, impatience, criticalness and selfishness, involve more than just mere willpower. "
So what do...
“Pain is not wrong. Reacting to pain as wrong initiates the trance of unworthiness. The moment we believe something is wrong, our world shrinks and we lose ourselves in the effort to combat the pain. ~Tara Brach
I remember years back, when I had about a year of coaching under my belt, I hired a photographer to take some pictures of me for the new website I was creating.
This photographer was referred to me by a friend, and I had known that she recently got married and was going through some major transitions in her life.
For the photo shoot, she and I decided to meet in the woods near my home where we thought we could get some nice shots outside.
During the shoot, we chatted about a variety of things and our conversation eventually landed on...
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One of the most common, and biggest untruths that I see in coaching work with clients is when someone believes their power is outside of them. This belief shows up in a variety of ways depending on where you are in your life stage.
Take work for example.
If you work for someone else, you no doubt have felt, at one point or another, that your employer/your boss has power over your well-being. Your fear may be that if you mess up or disappoint them, you'd be fired and your own sense of safety and security would be threatened.
Or say you work for yourself.
You may feel this belief even stronger - where you don't have the consistent income (a.k.a Source) of an employer plopping money into your account every other week. ...
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Time is free, but it's priceless. You can't own it, but you can use it. You can't keep it, but you can spend it. Once you've lost it you can never get it back. ~Harvey MacKay
How do you make sure that you keep your aspirations and dreams for the future alive while you have a bunch of screaming priorities in your everyday life that you're trying to juggle?
Also, how can you balance your need for everyday peace while making progress towards your future?
One suggestion is: Spend one hour a day on your dream.
Easier said than done, I know. Yet, it is possible.
A trick I’ve found useful is to give yourself a time limit on your dreaming. The key is: you definitely don’t go under that...
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In last week's article Keeping Commitments To Yourself I talked about conflicting priorities and if what you say you want isn't happening, you may be more committed to not changing for fear of losing something in your current life.
This fear of change also comes up because stepping into the unknown is cloudy. You don’t know what lies on the other side of your decisions.
Having a fear of the unknown is totally common - especially if you have a BIG Vision that you want to manifest and step into. You may daydream about things being different and better, but when you’re called on the carpet to actually commit those dreams to paper, it’s a whole different story.
Why is this?
When you are tasked with putting your Visions...
“The biggest commitment you must keep is the commitment you keep to yourself.” ~Neale Donald Walsch
Do you fear being judged if you share your dreams with anyone, even yourself? Do you have resistance to writing your dreams down? If so, you may fear two things when it comes to sharing your deep heart's desire:
1) Hearing your own critical voice judging you.
2) Hearing judgement from other people (especially people closest to you) and losing their love if you step into a new, authentic version of yourself.
I read recently that one of the top 6 fears that people have about succeeding and changing is the fear of losing love.
Therefore you may stay stuck for fear of making others feel...
If you’ve ever had a struggle or a really difficult circumstance in your life, you most likely wanted to share the struggle with someone you trust and who can help you through it.
Yet, at one point (or many points), you may have found yourself feeling worse after sharing your struggle with someone who didn't support you in the way you needed them to.
In this discussion with Oprah, Brene Brown speaks to this exact situation in what she refers to as: 6 People Who Do Not Deserve To Hear Your Shame Story.
It’s powerful to realize that you may have chosen to be vulnerable with the wrong person. You may have chosen to be open with someone who hasn’t learned to be open with themselves.
So often on your...
Your heart knows the way. Run in that direction. ~Rumi
Oftentimes there is a big disconnect between what your heart deeply desires and what your head tells you that you’re capable and worthy of.
It’s one thing to say what you want and it’s another thing to believe with every cell of your being that you’re worthy of receiving it.
In coaching sessions, we always go for the root of what is holding someone back. What we most often discover is something that’s totally unconscious.
The challenges faced usually sounds something like this: “I don’t know what it is – I just can’t do it. I know what I want, I can see it, I journal around it, write ideas in...
It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare. It is because we do not dare that they are difficult. ~ Seneca ~
Nothing will build your confidence faster than to have courage in the face of fear. To act when your knees are shaking and your palms are sweating. At that moment, you are taking a BIG leap of Faith and you have no idea what will happen. You are forced to jump and pray a net will be found!
I bet you've had experiences where you've looked back on something you did that was scary and thought, “Wow, I can’t believe I did that!”. Those are the moments when you get to see what you’re really made of, especially when you did something (or many things) that you...