I’ve learned first-hand that what you’re skilled at isn’t always what you’re gifted at. The two can beautifully blended together but both must be put in their proper places in order for you to discover your true purpose and to experience effortless joy in your work.
Even though I am a certified life and career coach, I never had any formal training to teach me the “type” of coaching that I do.
My ability to help others transform how they see themselves and as a result - feel more confident, grounded, courageous and better in their own skin – comes very natural to me – but again – it’s work that I could never be “trained” to do.
Rather, the work that I do has come – and continues to come...
I watched the most interesting documentary on Netflix this weekend titled: Tell Me Who I Am. You can watch the trailer by clicking here.
***Spoiler Alert & Disclaimer: If you don’t want any spoilers to the documentary, stop reading now, go watch and then come back. Also, before watching please know that the documentary discusses sexual abuse and has very sensitive content.
As the trailer describes, the story is about two twin brothers, Alex and Lewis.
At age eighteen Alex was seriously injured in a motorcycle accident and lost all his memory. The only person he recognized when he woke up was his twin brother Marcus. He didn’t even recognize his own mother but he knew his twin and...
“Make no judgments where you have no compassion.” ~Anne McCaffrey
Judgment gets a bad rap in our society.
You hear people tell us that judging is bad and you shouldn't judge another or yourself.
Yet in order to function in life you do need have a tool that allows you to observe behavior and make determinations that serve you and your well being.
This key is to know the difference between judging and discernment.
Judging is making a critical observation and concluding that you are better than the person you are judging. This is also true for how your inner critic tries to control you through judgement of yourself!
Discernment is the act of observing someone's behavior and making...
Have you ever experienced a situation in life or work where you felt so attached to an outcome that it was driving you crazy?
Have you tried everything in your power to manipulate that particular outcome and still have nothing happen?
Did you, at some point, realize that the situation was simply out of your control and you needed to surrender and let "it" go?
Most of us could use a weekly class in buffing our internal surrender muscle.
Most often the beliefs around surrender conjure up feelings of giving up and losing all hope.
The Truth is: Being able to surrender and trust in a higher power is actually a sign of spiritual maturity. Learning to surrender before any suffering and...
Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen." ~Winston Churchill
I've shunned myself many times for having opinions about things and for using my voice especially when others weren't in agreement about what I had to say. In fact, I've had others get down-right angry at me for expressing my feelings and opinions.
What I've realized is: having opinions and using your voice in a world full of people who want you to conform is like trying to swim upstream. It's hard and it takes a lot of strength and courage!
Feeling like you're swimming upstream is where I see so much resistance coming up for clients who know they are...
“We work on ourselves in order to help others, but also we help others in order to work on ourselves.” — Pema Chödrön
The biggest misconception many people have is - believing that those that are called to teach and coach have it all figured out. We don’t. That’s the point.
Oftentimes I’ve found myself begrudging my circumstances - whether present or past thinking: “This isn’t right. This shouldn’t be happening to me. Haven’t I transcended and outgrown this by now?”
These questions always served me a nice big piece of humble pie.
I’ve learned through direct experience that if you are committed to being of true service in this world, then...
“I am a little pencil in God's hands. He does the thinking. He does the writing. He does everything and sometimes it is really hard because it is a broken pencil and He has to sharpen it a little more.” ~Mother Teresa
I remember reading somewhere that a high quality of life has to do with what you take off your plate than what you add onto it.
It is true. Removing things off your plate both externally in your outer world and internally in your inner world is truly the KEY to living authentically.
We all know how awesome it feels to purge, clear out your closets and clear space on your calendar for new things to show up in your life.
Yet, what most often...
“I finally figured out the only reason to be alive is to enjoy it”.
~Rita Mae Brown
If there is one common denominator in the Claim Your Worth!® collaboration and coaching process it is: helping you to balance your future aspirations while maintaining everyday peace of mind.
Not such an easy mission when everything in our society screams at us to do more, be more, have more, and accomplish more.
Yet, this balance of experiencing everyday peace while still aspiring and accomplishing what you desire is possible. It simply takes choice. The choice it requires is to accept ‘what is’ right now, without feeling like you’re resigning to ‘what...
“Be yourself, not your idea of what you think somebody else's idea of yourself should be.” Henry David Thoreau
According to Dictionary.com, the word “chase” has many definitions. All of them amount to key words such as: to pursue in to order to seize, overtake; to capture or kill, as game; hunt; to follow or devote one's attention to with the hope of attracting, winning, gaining; to drive or expel by force, threat, or harassment.
When you look-up “claim” on Dictionary.com, you find definitions including: to demand by or as by virtue of a right; demand as a right or as due; to assert and demand the recognition of (a right, title, possession, etc.); assert one's right to; to assert or maintain as a fact; ...
"If the shoe doesn't fit, must we change the foot?" ~Gloria Steinem
To me, this quote by Gloria Steinem is incredibly powerful.
It speaks to what most of us are taught to do from a very early age, change and hide who we really are in order to "fit-into" situations that are uncomfortable but needed for our survival.
Have you ever considered that the parts of you that you thought were your hold-backs were just protection mechanisms?
Have you ever considered that you needed to hide away parts of you that are LIGHT, bright, capable, strong, and glowing - in order to not outshine or intimidate others?
Consider Gloria's question: "If the shoe doesn't fit, must we change the foot?"
Unfortunately most of us are taught unconsciously to...