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“Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” ~Steve Jobs
I think you’d agree that time is your greatest commodity. It’s a true gift to have more time for yourself, your life, with your family and for the pursuit of your creative aspirations for your continual evolution and growth as a person.
Yet, what most don’t realize is – what you value in life is displayed by two main things. First, what you spend your money on. And second, how you spend your time.
Have you ever taken inventory of what you spent your money on in one month, maybe an entire year? If so, what did you discover? What about taking inventory of your time? Where you spend it? Who you spend it with? Doing what sorts of activities?
Now, the biggest question of all is to ask yourself: Is where I invest (a.k.a. spend) my money and where I invest (a.k.a. spend) my time, in-line with what I care most about in life? In other words, are my actions congruent with my heart?
Think about it this way – there are 168 hours in a week- and the majority of that time is spent sleeping, working, getting ready for work, commuting to work. There is about 40 hours left over in a week – and that is usually comprised of the time over the weekend which is a mere 48-hours – including your sleep time!
Therefore, what you’re doing with your time and who you’re spending it with – and what you’re spending it on – is a true testament to what you care most about in life.
Simple enough formula - yet, what most don’t realize is: the obligation we all tend to feel to appease others with doing things that may be important to them, but not so important to you. Making a commitment to attend an event or be part of something that you feel obligated to do out of guilt not pure desire – can you relate?
Consider that everybody has 168 hours in a week – and take some inventory of where you’re spending your time each day and week.
Take inventory each day/week of how much time you spend sleeping, caring for others, getting ready for work, commuting to/from work, doing household chores, going on errands, and other everyday/weekly things you ‘do’ that are part of mundane, everyday life.
Then, consider your ‘extra’ time – your ‘free’ time – how do you spend it? Now ask yourself if you see a difference with your recreation and your leisure time?
Consider this: your recreation time is time for you to literally re-create yourself – go inside, re-gain your energy and do things that feed your soul. Things like taking a bubble bath, reading a book, working on a creative pursuit, listening to music, meditating, etc.
Your leisure time on the other hand is more social – the time you take to spend with others and that take energy outside of yourself – into the world – into other’s world – and outside your own world.
Now, the big question is: how much time do you truly have to your Self? Time to feed your soul? Do you value this time – or does it get pushed to the back-burner? Do you think you value but have no evidence of action to prove that you truly do?
Before these questions/exercises, you may of thought that you had plenty of recreation, free, leisure time – but now do you see the difference? Do you see the importance of having your own Self time?
Contemplate these questions and stay tuned next week where we’ll delve down more into your time with your Self – and others – and taking inventory of how it feels – regardless of what you’re ‘doing’.