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There comes a time in life when you hit a crossroads and realize that your old ways of ‘being’ and ‘doing’ just aren’t working anymore.
If you’re anything like me, you are a go-getter. Someone who is great at making things happen ‘out there’ and you’ve prided yourself on your past accomplishments and ability to achieve at whatever level that you’ve raised the bar to.
Yet, quite often us go-getter's long for more silence and peace but aren't sure how to give ourselves permission to have it.
For years I was driven and motivated by my head. My head believed (and still does!) that my worth and value came from outside of me – through my outer accomplishments – and that those “symbols” (or lack of them) represented my being ‘good enough’ or ‘not good enough’.
In retrospect I can see that my values were steeped in hard work, sacrifice and trying to prove something ‘out there’ about how capable I was. I see now I was trying to make-up for a deep false belief that I wasn’t ‘enough’ in general – and the outer world was my mirror for that.
Can you relate?
Just know that your head is motivated by fear and control. And that fear motivates you to change things on the outside so you can feel better about your situation (and yourself) for the time being.
Your head’s main motivation is to feel good and happy - yet unfortunately it doesn’t last because it’s based on obtaining an object outside of you to feed an inner starvation. Yet the outer is never ever the food you really need.
The Truth is: your head will never ever allow you to experience full-on self-realization, inner fulfillment and a sense of security and confidence that only can be obtained from your spiritual evolution and being guided by your heart/soul.
This spiritual core connection and ability to let that connection arise from within is so amazingly powerful that whatever happens to you on the outside of life, doesn’t have power over you anymore because you know, deep down, you can handle it – and ultimately that whatever is happening is for your highest good.
In a nutshell, when you are connected to your deep inner core - you can handle anything.
What I’ve realized through much inner work and introspection is – we truly can’t control the circumstances of life, what we do have control over is our response to them.
Many teachings go overboard on self responsibility where its taught that you’re causing your circumstances based on your thought patterns and feelings and that you are totally responsible, and, if you just change those then your life will change. And this is absolutely true when you’re in the metaphysical paradigm of life.
But I choose to look at, and teach from, the Faith-Based Paradigm which to me feels much more authentic, peaceful and healing – where I see whatever comes coming from The Divine who truly has you best interests at heart. And if you simply surrender, trust, have immense faith and accept the Truth – which is: whatever winds blow they are blowing to bring you closer to your power and your Truth. .
What do you choose to believe and take-in as Truth for you?
As always, it's your choice.