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“Trust your own heart. It knows the right way.”
Decisions, decisions. They are certainly hard to make – especially when they pertain to really important things. Things that are aligned with you experiencing a brighter future.
Today I’m sharing a personal story with you that provides a real-world example of what it looks, and feels like, to make a decision from your head vs. your heart.
Years back, when I hit a wall in my career, I prayed for a miracle that would show me the way out, and into a career that I loved.
I still remember the day that I found the answer to my prayer as I googled a term that brought-up a link to an upcoming workshop that was focused on making an authentic career transition that was more in line with my soul/heart.
Not only was I excited to find the workshop, but even more excited to learn that it was being held in Maine three months to the day!
I immediately signed up.
The seminar was fantastic! It included a weekend full of insight from experts who knew their stuff about how to make the transition from working at a job just to survive – to a career that you love.
After the seminar was over, I decided to hire one of the experts for a one-hour consulting session. In prep for the session, I sent the expert my resume and also answered the various questions they had posed to me about the future work I was interested in pursuing.
On the day of the call I was very nervous about what my future held for me. I remember feeling nervous about what the expert had to say to me about what I *should* do moving forward.
During the call, the expert and I discussed my professional background at length. We talked about my decision to go to business school and study marketing and eventually have a successful, yet totally un-fulfilling, career in media and advertising.
I explained that I was very interested in pursuing a career as a life/business coach after experiencing the powerful transformations I saw at the workshop.
The expert listened to my desire to coach but then led me in a different direction.
The expert explained that she thought, with my strong business background, that I *should* probably start a marketing consultancy company. She went on to tell me that coaches don’t talk as much as I do – and I’d be better off as a consultant - giving people answers vs. helping them find them.
I felt deflated.
I knew in my heart what I wanted, and was destined to do, but I had a pattern of handing my power over to someone else asking them what i *should* do vs. me trusting myself on what I knew was true.
This pattern is steeped in a deep rooted belief that others know better and have more “authority” than I do. It’s trusting what my head says I *should* do vs. what my heart knows is TRUE.
Can you relate?
Well, fast forward to today and I eventually followed my own heart and made the decision to trust my inner knowing vs. trust what some expert told me I *should* do based on my resume.
What helped me make that eventual decision was leveraging what I needed most – a coach vs. a consultant!
Working with a coach helped me to move away from the pursuit of a marketing consultancy and into the career I was meant for - the career that I felt calling to me.
Clearly, my relying on an expert’s advice is also a beautiful testament to the power and transformational effectiveness of coaching – which, in the long-run made me appreciate what I do that much more.
Now, this of course isn’t to say that experts don’t give great advice. Yet, I believe there is a time and place for being given advice vs. having someone help you find the answers that are within you. Both have incredible value.
To learn more about how-to start the process of learning to follow the advice of your own heart vs. feeling as if the outside world, check-out the points below:
If you are at a crossroads with a decision that you need to make, rather than picking up the phone and asking a friend, a family member, or an expert, "What should I do?", carve-out some quiet time and listen to the voice of your heart and simply ask:
Simple advice but please don’t mistake the simplicity for lacking power.
You are here to do influential, great thing, but in order to do so, you must become someone who aligns with your own Truth vs. the Truth of others.
Others may have the best of intentions but only God knows what His/Her intentions are for you and your soul’s journey.
Your soul will guide you down the right path every time. This doesn’t mean it will be all smooth sailing. But I promise you, the insight, the growth, the learning, the RADIANCE you will gain along the way will be completely WORTH IT!