If you’ve ever had a struggle or a really difficult circumstance in your life, you most likely wanted to share the struggle with someone you trust and who can help you through it.
Yet, at one point (or many points), you may have found yourself feeling worse after sharing your struggle with someone who didn't support you in the way you needed them to.
In this discussion with Oprah, Brene Brown speaks to this exact situation in what she refers to as: 6 People Who Do Not Deserve To Hear Your Shame Story.
It’s powerful to realize that you may have chosen to be vulnerable with the wrong person. You may have chosen to be open with someone who hasn’t learned to be open with themselves.
So often on your...
Your heart knows the way. Run in that direction. ~Rumi
Oftentimes there is a big disconnect between what your heart deeply desires and what your head tells you that you’re capable and worthy of.
It’s one thing to say what you want and it’s another thing to believe with every cell of your being that you’re worthy of receiving it.
In coaching sessions, we always go for the root of what is holding someone back. What we most often discover is something that’s totally unconscious.
The challenges faced usually sounds something like this: “I don’t know what it is – I just can’t do it. I know what I want, I can see it, I journal around it, write ideas in...
It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare. It is because we do not dare that they are difficult. ~ Seneca ~
Nothing (in my opinion,), will build your confidence faster than to have courage in the face of fear. To act when your knees are shaking and your palms are sweating. At that moment, you are taking a BIG leap of Faith and you have no idea what will happen. You are forced to jump and pray a net will be found!
I bet you've had experiences where you've looked back on something you did that was scary and thought, “Wow, I can’t believe I did that!”. Those are the moments when you get to see what you’re really made of, especially when you did something (or many...
The other day I had a conversation with a friend who shared how worried she was about a health issue reoccurring in her life. She was having some symptoms that felt familiar and started to go into a spiral of fear that her former health issues were returning.
We talked about her shifting her thoughts. Thinking positive. Letting go of negative images and envisioning a good outcome.
This friend is like a fish to water when it comes to embracing a more positive mindset. Yet, for some reason she was resisting this approach.
She prayed about it and then prayed some more. Then, all of a sudden, it dawned on her. She realized that she’s held onto a lifelong pattern of being worried, fearful and scared when it...
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There comes a time in life when you hit a crossroads and realize that your old ways of ‘being’ and ‘doing’ just aren’t working anymore.
If you’re anything like me, you are a go-getter. Someone who is great at making things happen ‘out there’ and you’ve prided yourself on your past accomplishments and ability to achieve at whatever level that you’ve raised the bar to.
Yet, quite often us go-getter's long for more silence and peace but aren't sure how to give ourselves permission to have it.
For years I was driven and motivated by my head. My head believed (and still does!) that my worth and value came from outside of me – through my outer...
I’ve learned first-hand that what you’re skilled at isn’t always what you’re gifted at. The two can beautifully blended together but both must be put in their proper places in order for you to discover your true purpose and to experience effortless joy in your work.
Even though I am a certified life and career coach, I never had any formal training to teach me the “type” of coaching that I do.
My ability to help others transform how they see themselves and as a result - feel more confident, grounded, courageous and better in their own skin – comes very natural to me – but again – it’s work that I could never be “trained” to do.
Rather, the work that I do has come – and continues to come...
I watched the most interesting documentary on Netflix this weekend titled: Tell Me Who I Am. You can watch the trailer by clicking here.
***Spoiler Alert & Disclaimer: If you don’t want any spoilers to the documentary, stop reading now, go watch and then come back. Also, before watching please know that the documentary discusses sexual abuse and has very sensitive content.
As the trailer describes, the story is about two twin brothers, Alex and Lewis.
At age eighteen Alex was seriously injured in a motorcycle accident and lost all his memory. The only person he recognized when he woke up was his twin brother Marcus. He didn’t even recognize his own mother but he knew his twin and...
“Make no judgments where you have no compassion.” ~Anne McCaffrey
Judgment gets a bad rap in our society.
You hear people tell us that judging is bad and you shouldn't judge another or yourself.
Yet in order to function in life you do need have a tool that allows you to observe behavior and make determinations that serve you and your well being.
This key is to know the difference between judging and discernment.
Judging is making a critical observation and concluding that you are better than the person you are judging. This is also true for how your inner critic tries to control you through judgement of yourself!
Discernment is the act of observing someone's behavior and making...
Have you ever experienced a situation in life or work where you felt so attached to an outcome that it was driving you crazy?
Have you tried everything in your power to manipulate that particular outcome and still have nothing happen?
Did you, at some point, realize that the situation was simply out of your control and you needed to surrender and let "it" go?
Most of us could use a weekly class in buffing our internal surrender muscle.
Most often the beliefs around surrender conjure up feelings of giving up and losing all hope.
The Truth is: Being able to surrender and trust in a higher power is actually a sign of spiritual maturity. Learning to surrender before any suffering and...
Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen." ~Winston Churchill
I've shunned myself many times for having opinions about things and for using my voice especially when others weren't in agreement about what I had to say. In fact, I've had others get down-right angry at me for expressing my feelings and opinions.
What I've realized is: having opinions and using your voice in a world full of people who want you to conform is like trying to swim upstream. It's hard and it takes a lot of strength and courage!
Feeling like you're swimming upstream is where I see so much resistance coming up for clients who know they are...